As usual, I was pondering different matters in my head for no good reason, and I came across the arranged topic in my mind…
As I’m growing older, and meeting and working with people that are not just in my age group, but also older, I am seeing more and more how complicated mate-hunting really is. Not just complicated, but also just plain time consuming. Today’s lifestyle is fast-paced enough as it is (i.e. working all day, always something to do that needs to get done, deadlines, overtime work hours, long classes with lots of assignments, all those degrees you want to earn, all those projects you want to do , etc). There are only 24 hours a day.
So many people rely on the weekend and weeknights (limited time) to hunt around for the opposite sex. And think about it. If you date, you just lose time. You find one person, so you go with the dating philosophy and try to “get to know them” on your own, no parents assisting, no family assisting. You might know the person 3 years, and you still don’t know anything about them. After many months, or many years, something might pop up, whether its skeletons coming out of the closet, or the other person letting their real personality out, etc.
Now after having wasted the number of years/months you invested in one gf/bf, you are now back to square 1. You are single again and looking. It takes a couple of months for you to find another person, and the cycle starts again, and you still don’t have any knowledge of whether it will lead to marriage.
That’s why I think I see so many 30 and 40 year olds who are still not married. They’re just wasting so much of their time, because they are disorganized about their methods. They don’t know what they want. They are out there trying a little of everything as if they’re in a chinese buffet.
So, I was thinking, with arranged marriage, its more convenient. You, with relatives who know you, make a list of characteristics you want. With people helping you out, that list can quickly be trimmed down to REALISTIC characteristics. Then you just go from house to house and conduct interviews, although we don’t call it interviews, we just call it the chai parade.
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Random thoughts. I think I’m getting old, that I see arranged marriages better than love marriages. I still think love marriages are so much more sweet, but please honey, who has the time? Arranged marriages are maybe not such a bad creation of our culture.
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