Re: Arranged Marriages - Time Savers?
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Now after having wasted the number of years/months you invested in one gf/bf, you are now back to square 1. You are single again and looking. It takes a couple of months for you to find another person, and the cycle starts again, and you still don't have any knowledge of whether it will lead to marriage.
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It's strange how that one paragraph kind of stands out from the entire forum post.
Arranged marriages are on the whole a far safer deal. It's better to have the wisdom and logic (if at times warped) of our elders on our side. After all, it takes a clear mind to make a decision which affects our entire life.
Arranged marriages aren't just time savers, they're probably our best shot at finding someone reasonable to settle down with.
Marriages are a 50/50 affair generally, the door swings both ways... but if I can get an extra arranged 1% or so pushing the odds in my favour so I can get a relationship to work... then i'll take the chance.
While i'm not an elitist snob or anything, a large part of a marriage actually working out boils down to the families seeing eye to eye on a lot of matters, and that usually comes from similar family setups.
All too often i've seen absurd love marriages where the two families are way too different from one another, which 2 years down the line led to a divorce, simply due to the fact that the immediate families weren't supportive enough of the couple.
Love's overrated anyway... chemically no different to eating large quantities of chocolate.