My marriage is going to be an arranged one, i am already engaged. Its a sophistication-full relation. It puts so many doubts in my mind what if i never fall in love with him or he never falls for me? Will it remain a relation that we just keep compromising for but dont feel its essence.
Has it happened with any one or these are just nervous attacks i am having?
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Has it happened with any one or these are just nervous attacks i am having?
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Most of our parents had arranged marriages and they did fall in love (or at least worked hard to keep the marriage going on for any reason). Don’t think too much. Once you start having more interaction with the guy (before marriage or after marriage), you both will fall for each other or else you can ask others to kick you and then you both will fall like this 
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you’re getting married? congrats. 
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My marriage is going to be an arranged one, i am already engaged since 2-3 months. Its purely arranged and a very formal sophistication-full relation. It puts so many doubts in my mind what if i never fall in love with him or he never falls for me? Will it remain a relation that we just keep compromising for but dont feel its essence.
Has it happened with any one or these are just nervous attacks i am having?
People who do love marriage may also sometime end up loosing love for each other. There is no guarantee for anything. Keep your self and your thoughts good . Think positive about your husband and inlaws and try to keep quite on things that you don't like atleast for sometime because everything will be new including your relationships and you will need sometime for adjustments.
It can take years for someone to actually fall in love. I have seen people being married for over 20+ years but having very little respect and no love for his/her spouse.
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I fall in love on weekly basis but still believe on arranged marriage 
Don’t worry..
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You are not the first girl going for arranged marriage…as i said earlier in your other thread sit back and relax…Prepare for your Big Day instead of thinking this hard 
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Love comes with commitment. It's pretty basic, you cant help BUT love each other once you get married. Allah is kind in that manner, most kind. So worry not.
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My marriage is going to be an arranged one, i am already engaged since 2-3 months. Its purely arranged and a very formal sophistication-full relation. It puts so many doubts in my mind what if i never fall in love with him or he never falls for me? Will it remain a relation that we just keep compromising for but dont feel its essence.
Has it happened with any one or these are just nervous attacks i am having?
Did you not feel any sort of attraction or even a tiny flicker of chemistry at all towards him when u met?? If you really want to fall in love and not just end up going thru the motions like past generations of our families often did you'd prob need at least some sort of attraction (it doesn't necessarily have to be just physical) there in the first place.
Marrying someone you feel indifferent to might mean you never properly fall in love but you could still be content or 'satisfied' with your mariage.. Our mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers were encouraged to have minimal expectations, be grateful they even got a husband lol and be happy as long as their basic material needs were being met.. I don't think it's true at all that two ppl living together will always fall in love eventually, that's a very naive way of looking at it imo.. more like they will be stuck with each other and either fall in love or just get on with life and make the most of it + this of course can and does work if expectations are kept low, which is of course what used to happen in the past..
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^ are you married deeba?
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nervous attacks!
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Marrying someone you feel indifferent to might mean you never properly fall in love but you could still be content or 'satisfied' with your mariage.. Our mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers were encouraged to have minimal expectations, be grateful they even got a husband lol and be happy as long as their basic material needs were being met.. I don't think it's true at all that two ppl living together will always fall in love eventually, that's a very naive way of looking at it imo.. *more like they will be stuck with each other and either fall in love or just get on with life and make the most of it *+ this of course can and does work if expectations are kept low, which is of course what used to happen in the past..
And that is what needs to happen even now Deeba. Realising you are stuck with each other and get on with life while making the most of it. The OP asked if love would develop, it definitely will. Allah is most kind and merciful.
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tu love bhi arrange ker laina… 
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Love is highly over rated so don't worry you are getting the best of the deal.
(And I don't even want to start on the damage these bollywood movies and khawateen digests have done to the sophisticated institution of a marriage)
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^yea..........and disney movies too........the whole "prince charming" phenomena..
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u will fall in love...unless either u or the guy turn out to be right jerks to each other...marriage has a strange way of giving birth to love even if there never was any to begin with...chill and have faith in Allah
our parents did it and they're happy (Well most of them)...that should tell you something, nay?
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what so u mean disney and bollywood aren’t real? 
way to burst my bubble 
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people do fall in love if they want to. If they acknowledge the worth of marriage and realize the strength of the bond. This is what happened with me atleast.
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ofcourse it will remain a good relation. love is good but isnot neccassary or utmost important. the important thing is that you give each other respect.
ps. Congrats on getting engaged 
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I highly doubt all couples who have an arranged marriage fall in love with each other after marriage. Some of the married couples I know really are just baring each other. They may be friends with each other but the love between them is not romantic love. Some married couples I know-despite being married for years-hate each other and they hardly ever speak to one another unless koi kaam na ho.
Love marriages aren't any better though. Many couples seem to eventually fall out of love.
Marriage is such a huge gamble :/
Hopefully inshAllah it'll work out for you though.