Re: Arranged Marriage: What if we never fall in love?
If you do not fall in lover there are so many other ways of getting love and attention. You will find those after you get married. You are not supposed to test it out before your marriage.
What if you fall in love , get married and then lose love for each other. It happens on a daily basis. So there is an equal chance of a marriage failure in a love or arranged marriage.
You are having anxiety attacks which people get before such life changers. It is normal. You will get over it.
Re: Arranged Marriage: What if we never fall in love?
And that is what needs to happen even now Deeba. Realising you are stuck with each other and get on with life while making the most of it. The OP asked if love would develop,** it definitely will.** Allah is most kind and merciful.
Bit in blue - just according to you..
Bit in red - only someone very naive would believe that love always will develop after marriage.. Most of the time it might do but NOT always.. Oh, and being 'stuck' with someone and feeling u just have to carry on regardless does not constitute love.. Interesting you bring in Allah as tho we should just stumble into marriage blindly with no sense of looking for any sort of attraction, chemistry or personal compatibility.. There's that hadith that mentions a woman going to Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) and saying she simply doesn't love her husband anymore (he does not mistreat her in any way) and he replies to divorce him so your idea of just 'making do' just for the sake of it is obviously just cultural.
That's not to say love marriages guarantee love.. As has already been mentioned ppl obviously can fall out of love as well..
My main point in my first post was that the OP should feel something for her future husband, some sort of initial attraction whether that's for his personality or his looks or whatever else as a base to hopefully build on..
Re: Arranged Marriage: What if we never fall in love?
If you don't FALL into love, then JUMP into it instead ... it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all ... get a taste of marriage and don't look back ...
Re: Arranged Marriage: What if we never fall in love?
There's that hadith that mentions a woman going to Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) and saying she simply doesn't love her husband anymore (he does not mistreat her in any way) and he replies to divorce him so your idea of just 'making do' just for the sake of it is obviously just cultural.
What hadith is this? I never knew of it. Please elaborate
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