shak ...you're one of the few people on gupshup who I have alot of respect for...because your responses are always very mature unlike the other kids on here. you had an arranged marriage....yet you dont talk against love marriages.....(p.s. in my opinion a love marriage is simply knowing the person beforehand and having love for them....no physical relationship whatsoever). even talking to someone on the phone before the marriage....and falling in love with them....is a form of love marriage in my opinion.
arranged marriage in my opinion is just seeing the person ONCE before marriage....maybe only a photo and saying "yes" or "no" based on that. talking with ur spouse before marriage....does not really fit into being a totally arranged marriage....if you know what i mean.
if you talk to someone before getting married to them....and i mean JUST talk....you are most likely to fall in love with them....and hence in my opinion thats a love marriage.
having a physical relationship of ANY sort before marriage....is totally wrong in my opinion.
well the thing is Impulse, 100% of the pakistani I know got a chance to TALK to their better-halves before marriage. But thats not love marriage. Because it was arranged by some one else.
It s a love marriage when two people meet WITHOUT the help of parents or uncles or aunties and then decide to marry. :)
Life isnt as black and white as you are seeing things Impulse.
So basically your opinion is wrong :D, But you entitled to have it ofcourse.
arranged marriage in my opinion is just seeing the person ONCE before marriage....maybe only a photo and saying "yes" or "no" based on that. talking with ur spouse before marriage....does not really fit into being a totally arranged marriage....if you know what i mean.
if you talk to someone before getting married to them....and i mean JUST talk....you are most likely to fall in love with them....and hence in my opinion thats a love marriage.
having a physical relationship of ANY sort before marriage....is totally wrong in my opinion.
perhaps ur definition of arranged marriage is different then mine.....there are different types of arranged marriages. Arranged marriage simply means it was arranged by someone else...but that doesnt mean you cant get to know that person before marrying them.
obviously you’d only talk to someone regularly who you have decided is right for you…i mean you wouldnt start talking to someone you dont like…
for me, arranged marriage wouldve been a last resort…ive had many proposals through parents…but ive rejected them all…
so you tell me why you want to have an arranged marriage rather than love? im sorry but the idea of spending the wedding night with a stranger/someone i dont love…seems rather low. i dont understand how 2 complete strangers have kids exactly 9 months after marriage. and to be honest in most arranged marriages…the couples are strangers to each other at the beginning…thats the reason u mentioned u start to get to know each other from then. so basically you’re gettng married and sleeping with a guy who you dont even know…
Impulse, if you dont understand something or arent able to understand doesnt mean something is wrong. :) Arranged marriage existed even way before Islam. Back then all the queens and kings, farmers and princesses did this. In only the last 100 years the so called 'sexual revolution'started. And a few decades before that love marriages. But now, because you arent willing to understand something its just plain wrong?
In some famillies its OK, to sex before marriage and hump around like bunnies.
They will call you stupid and paindu because you dont agree with them, just like you are doing now with those who firmly believe what you dont.
I m not against love marriages nor against arranged marriages. It has all to do with upbringing. If you were born and raised in pakistan in some pind, take my word for it, you wouldnt even think of a love marriage.
So the bottom line, stay true to your beliefs and values, its the act of courage, but always respect the beliefs of others aswell.
Impulse, if you dont understand something or arent able to understand doesnt mean something is wrong. :) Arranged marriage existed even way before Islam. Back then all the queens and kings, farmers and princesses did this. In only the last 100 years the so called 'sexual revolution'started. And a few decades before that love marriages. But now, because you arent willing to understand something its just plain wrong?
In some famillies its OK, to sex before marriage and hump around like bunnies.
They will call you stupid and paindu because you dont agree with them, just like you are doing now with those who firmly believe what you dont.
I m not against love marriages nor against arranged marriages. It has all to do with upbringing. If you were born and raised in pakistan in some pind, take my word for it, you wouldnt even think of a love marriage.
So the bottom line, stay true to your beliefs and values, its the act of courage, but always respect the beliefs of others aswell.
for me, arranged marriage wouldve been a last resort....ive had many proposals through parents...but ive rejected them all...
so you tell me why you want to have an arranged marriage rather than love? im sorry but the idea of spending the wedding night with a stranger/someone i dont love....seems rather low. i dont understand how 2 complete strangers have kids exactly 9 months after marriage. and to be honest in most arranged marriages...the couples are strangers to each other at the beginning.....thats the reason u mentioned u start to get to know each other from then. so basically you're gettng married and sleeping with a guy who you dont even know....
i never said that i wanted an arranged marriage btw... nor did i say i was against it. I just dont see anything wrong with either one. Both can work (or not work).
In case u dont realize this....you really dont know who you are marrying til u are actually married to that person and have lived with him/her for many years. Unfortunately people have a strange way of changing once they get what they want. Scary i know....but its a fact. Before marriage a person can easily fake their personality and be or act like someone they arent. When they get you....it's a whole new ball game. It is possible you know. This can happen in both types of marriages.
