No that will be my family. We support him and his family. I think my parents see this is as a valid rishtaa.
I would never spoil someones life - aka his. If I do it I have to back it 100% and yes, it is my fault when this doesn't work. Because I said yes. I am doing it to please them. I am not sure if I will get to know him. My main concern was the relations with a stranger. And the visa problem.
I don't have any friends/family member to turn to.
I will do Istakhara. I did one day and got nothing. So will continue. Until I do.
Yeah good luck is what I need
This is pretty risky imo. I don't know why some Pakistani parents feel that these are the only suitable rishtas. As if the fact that the guy and his family rely on your family for financial support (i.e. the wedding, moving, the visa, settling in a new country) will somehow make him indebted to you and therefore a safer bet.
From what I have seen first hand, this is never the case. We all know what the worst case scenario is, although I think it is rarer. But more normally what happens is that there is a lot of resentment on both sides. The husband actually ends up finding it difficult to deal with the fact that his wife and in-laws are responsible for everything. They generally find it hard to find work and can spend a long time unemployed. The wife has resentment over the same issues and then things that we see examples of here on GS (and I see with some of my own cousins with whom this has happened with), where she is working to support them both but at the same time the husband wants a "traditional" wife who will take care of all the cooking and chores.
Just make sure you're going into this with your eyes open. I hope your parents have checked this guy and his family out thoroughly. If you have decided to go ahead then at least work on making sure he knows what he's in for when he moves to your country.
Plus, if him and his family are living off of your parents, there’s a chance that one party can take advantage of another…or it could turn into a pride/ego issue…only fueling the frustrations/resentment that Stoppit has pointed out.
First of all this has less to do with arranged marriage and more to do with your parents being selfish for whatever reason.
They're going against Islam. Islam gives the potential couple 100% rights to refuse/accept proposals on their own.
You've got every right to refuse to give into their emotional guilt-trip. From an Islamic perspective you would not be doing anything wrong.
Tell your parents straight up and hopefully they might reconsider. You could always try and find out more about that guy, you might like him. I don't know.
Now that said, there's other things to consider.
How would you rather meet your potential spouse?
Now say you go through with it in March, are you not willing to give it a chance? Most people develop an understanding/love after spending time with each other. So it might not be all that.
If I think I know what you're trying to say by relations, I think from a religious/natural POV it is to be expected and is merited by Sawab (Reward). Ofcourse I wouldn't expect a girl to jump my bones on the first night and I'm sure it'll be a very nervous moment for pretty much most girls to have to go through the whole getting acquainted and etc... etc... I'm sure its scary even... So I guess you have to talk it out with your spouse when you get some time after marriage. That is, if you go through with it.