Arranged Marriage and all that hoop-laa

oOalyshaOo16 · January 14, 2011, 1:47am

Re: Arranged Marriage and all that hoop-laa

First of all this has less to do with arranged marriage and more to do with your parents being selfish for whatever reason.

They’re going against Islam. Islam gives the potential couple 100% rights to refuse/accept proposals on their own.

You’ve got every right to refuse to give into their emotional guilt-trip. From an Islamic perspective you would not be doing anything wrong.

Tell your parents straight up and hopefully they might reconsider. You could always try and find out more about that guy, you might like him. I don’t know.

Now that said, there’s other things to consider.

How would you rather meet your potential spouse?

Now say you go through with it in March, are you not willing to give it a chance? Most people develop an understanding/love after spending time with each other. So it might not be all that.

If I think I know what you’re trying to say by relations, I think from a religious/natural POV it is to be expected and is merited by Sawab (Reward). Ofcourse I wouldn’t expect a girl to jump my bones on the first night and I’m sure it’ll be a very nervous moment for pretty much most girls to have to go through the whole getting acquainted and etc… etc… I’m sure its scary even… So I guess you have to talk it out with your spouse when you get some time after marriage. That is, if you go through with it.

EDIT: Good luck!

I totally agree .. lol really well said