Is it possible?
I want to get married Feb-March time. I am from the UK.
Can it be done? We are only have one do, to save money. Nikkah, Baraat and Walima in one day.
Has anyone accomplished it?
Can anyone help me in what I need to sort out?
Thank you!
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
My cousins have started doing joint receptions. No barat or walima. Just reception with both families pitching in. The nikkah was done before in the mehndi but if you don't want a mehndi then its fine to do the nikkah in the main function. The weddings are still as much fun as normal three day ones.
Weddings only get overblown when you plan and expect too much. Limit your trousseau dresses and you can easily make that deadline. The one thing that you might fussy is finding a main dress within timeframe. My dress was done in 2 months but I got lucky. Start looking asap.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
i planned my wedding in 6 weeks this june, i had a mehndi and joint reception. So really it was just the one big day and it was a little stressful but not impossible.
it was in london just before ramadan so i guess that helped too
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
I think it's doable. I have been to few wedding where the valima was skipped or combined with the barat/reception function. BUT i thought a valima dinner was a must for a guy to give?
I think it's doable. I have been to few wedding where the valima was skipped or combined with the barat/reception function. BUT i thought a valima dinner was a must for a guy to give?
A lot of people I know, and a lot of friends of mine in the UK have just had one joint event. Doing the whole separate dinner thing isn't a big deal anymore.
Three months is doable but prepare to compromise. Eg on your outfit, might be quicker to buy ready-made than get it designed. If you're on the ball you can get it done. Main stuff is Hall hire and caterers anyway, the rest can be done in that time.
Are you getting married in UK or Pakistan?
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
I think it's doable. I have been to few wedding where the valima was skipped or combined with the barat/reception function. BUT i thought a valima dinner was a must for a guy to give?
Since he's paying for his part that requirement is fulfilled. It's the girls side that is going above and beyond Islamic requirement.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
A lot of people I know, and a lot of friends of mine in the UK have just had one joint event. Doing the whole separate dinner thing isn't a big deal anymore.
Three months is doable but prepare to compromise. Eg on your outfit, might be quicker to buy ready-made than get it designed. If you're on the ball you can get it done. Main stuff is Hall hire and caterers anyway, the rest can be done in that time.
Are you getting married in UK or Pakistan?
Just because everybody is doing it makes it ok. I dont think so.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Strong one…your answer makes more sense. BUT i did more research and its seems like majority islamic scholars believe Walima is a meal that is prepared after the marriage has been consummated. This was the practice of the our prophet. The Fiqh Of Walima
I am not suggesting for the OP to not have her short wedding. But just Islamically they should have a separate dinner later on.
[quote="Mad_Hatter, post:9, topic:341638"]
A lot of people I know, and a lot of friends of mine in the UK have just had one joint event. Doing the whole separate dinner thing isn't a big deal anymore.
Three months is doable but prepare to compromise. Eg on your outfit, might be quicker to buy ready-made than get it designed. If you're on the ball you can get it done. Main stuff is Hall hire and caterers anyway, the rest can be done in that time.
Are you getting married in UK or Pakistan?
Just because everybody is doing it makes it ok. I dont think so.
[/QUOTE]
Errr okay, really? I meant that having one function isn't unusual, there's really nothing wrong with wanting to save money and not drag out events.
I did one event and it was fine too. I didn't do it because everybody else did, I chose to have a joint event.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Errr okay, really? I meant that having one function isn't unusual, there's really nothing wrong with wanting to save money and not drag out events.
I did one event and it was fine too. I didn't do it because everybody else did, I chose to have a joint event.
please read my second post. I am not suggesting that it's a bad idea, just saying not to skip the walima all together as its a islamic requirement. Just having a small dinner will be fine too.
please read my second post. I am not suggesting that it's a bad idea, just saying not to skip the walima all together as its a islamic requirement. Just having a small dinner will be fine too.
Pretty sure you need to read my post too. Different people have different ways to getting married. Whether you agree with it or not, is another thing.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Mad Hatter stop being mad :), a muslim having nikah done thn why would they skip the next, required religious ceremony. It's not about me agreeing or not. It's about what is correct in Islam. also, the requirement is not to have a large/fancy dinner, it is to have a dinner.
"BUT i did more research and its seems like majority islamic scholars believe Walima is a meal that is prepared after the marriage has been consummated. This was the practice of the our prophet. The Fiqh Of Walima"
Lol okay. I'll stop being mad. There's no point explaining to someone who already thinks they know best :)
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Maybe you didn't read the link i posted, its what islam says, not me. Anyways, i dont want this thread to become something else.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
I got married in 1998 and we had one combined reception as well, paid for by both sides. Nikkah was preformed on the stage in front of all 385 people, ruhkhsati took place that night. We had a small joint mehndi function the night before.
The time from the engagement to wedding was 3 months. It's totally doable.
My sister got married this summer and I planned the whole thing in 8 weeks.
I have a cousin getting married May 2016, her nikkah will be outdoor late afternoon in a garden, followed by a joint reception. The night before my khala is having a small mayoun function at their house.
OP, it's perfectly fine to have one combined reception. Different fiqhs in Islam have differing views on weather a Walima MUST be after the wedding is consummated. It's a sunnat, follow it the best you can and don't sweat all the cultural dogma that plagues our weddings. Do whatever is right for you and your fiance and your respective families.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Walima is the groom announcing to the world at large he’s married. Is the marriage not valid if the bride & groom have not had sex? That’s what you’re implying.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
@khattichic is right. I have read scholarly opinions myself that a walima dinner can be given whether the marriage has been consummated or not. But the link above has scholars who give a different opinion. So it varies. Main thing is that the guy pays after the nikah for a meal.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
^Agreed.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
I got married in 1998 and we had one combined reception as well, paid for by both sides. Nikkah was preformed on the stage in front of all 385 people, ruhkhsati took place that night. We had a small joint mehndi function the night before.
The time from the engagement to wedding was 3 months. It's totally doable.
My sister got married this summer and I planned the whole thing in 8 weeks.
I have a cousin getting married May 2016, her nikkah will be outdoor late afternoon in a garden, followed by a joint reception. The night before my khala is having a small mayoun function at their house.
OP, it's perfectly fine to have one combined reception. Different fiqhs in Islam have differing views on weather a Walima MUST be after the wedding is consummated. It's a sunnat, follow it the best you can and don't sweat all the cultural dogma that plagues our weddings. Do whatever is right for you and your fiance and your respective families.
This. Also, you will find different opinions within the same school of thought. It's a minority that connect Walima to consummation.
Most weddings these days, especially the ones in more religious families (and really, very different types when it comes to the rest of their practise) are just one joint reception some time after a small more intimate nikkah at home or at a mosque.
Re: Arrange a wedding in 3 months?
Is it possible?
I want to get married Feb-March time. I am from the UK.
Can it be done? We are only have one do, to save money. Nikkah, Baraat and Walima in one day.
Has anyone accomplished it?
Can anyone help me in what I need to sort out?
Thank you!
Yes, absolutely! Why don't you guys sign a Nikah and have a reception? I wouldn't Call it baraat or Walima:). I actually have a brand new bridal maxi in Bradford, just ordered it! It's teal with a purse and elegant tail... £600, local shops are selling similar outfits for £1000