Well as we all know that its very normal to argue or have a different perspective then your significant other. But how much is too much. How often do you argue? When do you know to stop? As we are advised k “jab ek ghussa ho tau one should step back” Does that works?
Too much argument could means red flags or is it just part of a relationship.
I am brought up in a house where arguments between parents were common and they would be normal the next day as well. But i would like to hear from other men and women’s perspective in this.
Well if two people live together then there are bound to be some differences. The important thing is not to let those differences grow into something big.
Well as we all know that its very normal to argue or have a different perspective then your significant other. But how much is too much. How often do you argue? When do you know to stop? As we are advised k "jab ek ghussa ho tau one should step back" Does that works?
Too much argument could means red flags or is it just part of a relationship.
I am brought up in a house where arguments between parents were common and they would be normal the next day as well. But i would like to hear from other men and women's perspective in this.
Depends who's arguing... I am confused who you want to focus on? Like parents arguing with each other? or parents arguemnts with kids? or arguments between you and your spouse?
I am referring to argument between spouse.
Parents was a relationship that i was pointing at in saying they have been arguing their whole life and still Mashallah are together after 26 years.
i personally hate arguments but i agree if i get in one then i dont shut up!.
strong headed ppl esp ppl who are mature enough to know what is right and wrong for them are BOUND to argue. Even siblings argue although they have been brought up identically in the same place in the same mahol all their lives. Everyone is different and they are quite likely to have different stances and opinions.
Healthy argument with valid explanation wont hurt at all. On the other hand might help resolve the problem in a better way but there should be a clearly defined line as to what is a normal healthy argument or difference of opinion and where you are crossing the limit of respect and creating an issue for no reason.
Usually, in our society as most of the women are a little intimidated by their hubbies it is advised that they should be the ones to turn quiet when the argument reaches dangerous grounds.
We'd all admit it . Life's not a bed of roses. ppl tend to change as their life passes through different transitional phases. The honeymoon period doesnt last for long. differences in opinions and arguments on petty issues are inevitable. one just needs to limit them and learn when to stop or compromise. He/she can always explain the same thing gently sometime later, when the anger of the spouse has subsided
Enigmatica, i agree with you. Its not like old times when girls would be ignorant and say Yes to everything the hubby says. Nowadays, girls are mature and know what they want and what can they put up with; however men in our society are still expecting women to agree with everything they say or do.
Argument is not a problem or issue. Yet what if you are in a relationship in which you like to talk things out and the other one is more into No arguments and no talking about the arguments. Its so annoying.
Anyhow, We human arent perfect and as you mentioned, life is not easy.
My hubby always said that one of us has to give in, sometimes its me, and sometimes its him.
If its really something thats emotive and has triggered the red flag before my eyes, he knows it and he will remain the calm one, otherwise i just "talk" him out of the argument, tell him what he wants to hear............i was wrong..........he's always right............
