Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Maybe let your brother deal with it. What does he say?
And for next time you know not to get involved in such matters.
Money and family, especially in laws, is a very bad mix.
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Just to clarify for the benefit of the readers:
- Does your brother work?
- Does your SIL work?
- Who's money is in the bank and credit card accounts?
- Does your SIL use your brother's money and spend it on her side of the family?
- Does your brother spend any money on his (meaning your family)?
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Maybe let your brother deal with it. What does he say?
And for next time you know not to get involved in such matters.
Money and family, especially in laws, is a very bad mix.
oh... iv learnt my lesson...im nt gettin involved with them anymore
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Just to clarify for the benefit of the readers:
- Does your brother work?
- Does your SIL work?
- Who's money is in the bank and credit card accounts?
- Does your SIL use your brother's money and spend it on her side of the family?
- Does your brother spend any money on his (meaning your family)?
no he doesnt work
no, she doesnt work
its the overdraft limits in the bank account
yes, she does spend his money on her family
no, she doesnt let him spend anything on his family
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Um, if NEITHER works, who’s supporting BOTH of them 
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
the government…benefits
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
okay.....the government.....meaning those of us that ARE working are supporting them.......and you are going to take the profit from the sale of said gadget?
hello?
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
the government....benefits
Are you serious? Both of them are on benefits, overdrafting their accounts? And your brother will spend money that he doesn't have by further overdrafting his account on gadgets that MIGHT yield some profit, which he would then give to you even though you are working?
You realize how ridiculous that sounds, don't you?
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
no! it wouldnt cost them anything...coz the limit is free... with no interest charges...
i always buy them stuff and he wanted to buy something for me for my birthday...i said i dont need anything coz of various reasons..however, he said he will get profit and will give me the money as a present.. so it wouldnt have made any difference to them wt so ever... its really upset me coz she didnt even have the heart to give me a few pounds coz my bro wanted,... she has such a small heart...she buys stuff for her family using the overdraft limit...does that not matter?
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
the government....benefits
legally, i believe you have to report any income that you make between your cheques, part of which will be taken away from the benefits/entitlements thus eating away your profit margin.
i dunno where you live but i know one thing if you are NOT available for work [if you are doing your own business] you are NOT entitled to any benefits and obtaining one for which you are NOT entitled constitutes as 'fraud' and punishable by law.
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
legally, i believe you have to report any income that you make between your cheques, part of which will be taken away from the benefits/entitlements thus eating away your profit margin.
i dunno where you live but i know one thing if you are NOT available for work [if you are doing your own business] you are NOT entitled to any benefits and obtaining one for which you are NOT entitled constitutes as 'fraud' and punishable by law.
no, hes currently looking for a job...n the government pays all his expenses until he finds a job...
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
^ This is spot on.
The money that they are both getting from the government belongs to them both , so you cant say its your brothers money only
Secondly if she is spending that money on her family , you again cant say that its your brothers money and she shouldnt be spending it on her family
The thing that shocks me is how much money do they both get off the benefit system that they are also expected to spend on their families 
Khair, its their personal matter.. what ever the case be , the government is giving them benefit to live a basic life , that money really isnt hers or his and hence you shouldnt be expecting anything out of it anyways.
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
no, hes currently looking for a job...n the government pays all his expenses until he finds a job...
then he must report any money that he makes and if he does have his own business, no matter how small it is, the government has every right to know about it...if someone snitches on your brother, he'll be in big trouble...the social programs are NOT meant to dole out money to sit-in-home folks.
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
So they’re on welfare, and you actually were willing to take the profit from an item that was bought using the money WE (ie. the taxpayers) paid as your birthday gift?!! And you think that’s ok b/c you spent money on them?! Although their behavior says a lot about them…the fact that YOU were willing to accept the money in this situation says a lot about your values (and it isn’t good). I’m amazed that you feel absolutely no shame in agreeing to accept the money!
There are people out there who truly need help and are on welfare to meet their basic needs such as food and shelter. Taxpayers money should go towards those who truly need it. Instead, we have a guy here who spends him time/energy figuring out how to scam the system by using it to get profit to buy his sister a frigging birthday gift…and we have a sister who is complaning b/c the SIL stopped the scam. Good to know those of us who actually spend our time/energy EARNING our living are helping support people like this. 
** As already mentioned by several others…the money doesn’t belong to either one of them. It’s OUR (ie. the taxpayers) money. Both your brother and his wife are low-lifes for spending that money on “gifts”! The purpose of that money is strictly for their living expenses…things they NEED to survive.
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
then he must report any money that he makes and if he does have his own business, no matter how small it is, the government has every right to know about it...if someone snitches on your brother, he'll be in big trouble...the social programs are NOT meant to dole out money to sit-in-home folks.
government knows all bout it...its not a small business...
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
It is not your brother’s money and neither is it your SIL’s money. That money belongs to us, the taxpayers, not mooches like your brother and his wife. 
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
government knows all bout it...its not a small business...
hmmm...i wonder if the folks at 'Welfare Department' are asleep on the job!
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
HELLO!!! Who said I was going to take the money? Money is not the point here…its my sis in law…n hw much respect she has for me…n hw much she cares for us…
And i shud knw about tax..as I work full time as a government employee…im nt after their money..its not the money or the gift..its the thought that counts
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
hes not using "your tax money"..hes worked since he was 16 yrs old...hes paid tax...its his own money....
Re: Argument with sis in law- feeling upset
Firstly, your brother and his wife have no self-respect if they’re on government benefits and are willing to use that resource to help them buy gifts for their families. So when you’re dealing with people who don’t have any respect for themselves…you shouldn’t be surprised that they don’t have respect for you.
Well clearly the govenment doesn’t have very high standards when hiring people.