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"you mean tonight or in general?"
"no, how about you?"
Sehrysh: Thank you for reminding us about common courtesy.
Queer: Another two to add to our wonderful list!
Most of us in this thread are not having fertility issues by the Grace of God, so encouraging us to open up about fertility issues isn't the place. And if you want to change the world and desi culture, by trying to change women going through IVF and infertility issues, I recommend checking out the parenting section.
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It seems that your want to enlighten us that we have a chip on our shoulders, and we may but your using the perspective of someone with the chip on his shoulder that women who don't share their infertility issues with ever Tom, Dick, and Harry are contributing to insolent behavior. Nor does a woman need to be having health issues for peoples intrusive behavior to be inappropriate. The point that some people put their foot in their mouths without realizing (asking as small talk) has already been made in a respectful manner.
Frankly, I don't give a damn about your perspective nor do I care about your one liners. some people
Let me reiterate, the end does not justify the means. And for me, its the journey not the destination so you can take your chip and start your own thread.
lol...
You are going off the point in your own thread. You haven't answered any of my question with a rational view and instead started coming across as an increasingly defensive and aggravated person. I apologise because hitting a nerve was never my intention. I'm more than happy to open as many threads as I want, thanks for the suggestion. But let me remind you, this is an online forum, people have thefull freedom to give their perspective (as long forum rules aren't broken) your giving or not giving of damn hardly doesn't hold any importance. You are more than welcome to ignore my posts, maybe there are invisible readers who are genuinely looking for an effective solutions to such issues and whatever princess121 has said, may provide food for some thougth.
Your responses lead me to believe that attention to detail and reading comprehension is not your forte. The point of this thread was come backs for b*tchy people who have no need to know whether a person is trying or not. I already stayed in my first post what I tell aunties.
So please enlighten us what you thought was the point of this thread?
Why would any one in this thread answer your questions, they are besides the point. I am new to this forum, if going off in tangents and preaching to people on an unrelated matter is within its policies, then be our guest and continue preaching in a manner that doesn’t foster honest discussion.
And if you want to relish in hitting a nerve, go for it. My perspective is that what you say and do are your deeds and you alone will be held accountable for them, whether those are things you say to people you know or strangers like me so relish away and change the world and desi culture in the manner that you have been conducting yourself.
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The change of your attitude from your first post to an aggregated post above clearly suggest its you who are incapable of holding a discussion, let alone an honest (whatever that means) To be very frank, given the nature of your thread and some of the information you have provided, I'm beginning to have second thoughts. Internet is a scary world and I have read far too many dodgy stories of random online discussion going so wrong in the private life for certain types of individuals. So please calm down, you are new to this forum and I must be careful. Enjoy your time, sensationalist threads and constant wailing are the life and oxygen of this board. You'll find plenty of people to feed your ego and victim mentality. So you are in the right place, now cheer up.
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Peony & Jolie: Both of you hold strong opinions regarding this topic and have made your individual positions very clear. I think you two should agree to disagree on this and move on. :)
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:k: I completely agree with this.
Yep…there are MANY random/general topics and comments that could be brought up on social situation that does not involve someone’s s*x life. And I’m not even referring to something specific like the latest fashion.
For example: Just this past weekend I hung out with 2 women who I barely know during a baby shower. 1 woman is a stay-at-home mom with 2 kids under 4. I asked her questions about her kids, general family (where she grew up, her parents/siblings etc). She asked me about my job, my upcoming wedding anniversary and if we had any plans, general q’s about my family etc. The 2nd woman is single and a radiation oncologist. Once again, we asked general questions about each other’s background/family. We also asked each other questions about our jobs…even know she doesn’t know much about the legal field and I barely know anything about radiation oncology. And with BOTH women…we made random comments about the decor, food, games etc. that was at the baby shower which led to small side conversations. One of our mutual acquaintance at the shower recently got engaged so talking about that led to discussions about general wedding topics. Even though the 3 of us lead very different lives…we somehow managed talk to each other for several HOURS without bringing up each other’s reproductive system into the conversation.
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^ You're abs right Paheli. A woman's reproductive choices is NOT an acceptable conversation-starter/ice-breaker. There are tons of other topics to bond over.
Coming back to how to respond to such people - an appropriate response is to firmly tell the person asking that this is a private matter between you and your husband. Even better if there are other people listening in. Brushing it off, or treating it as a joke does not convey the fact that you don't appreciate such nosey questions about your private life.
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LucyMay:
Other ways besides snappy retorts have been discussed and I think most of us in this threat know the difference when to say "Allah ki marzi" or "dua karo" or explain that it is a private matter between the husband and wife.