Are you trying?

[Paheli00]

Re: Are you trying?

@Sehrysh

Here’s the rule of thumb, unless someone volunteers personal information about their age, weight, financial circumstances, desire to procreate, family life - don’t probe or ask them about it. That’s common courtesy.

:k: I completely agree with this.

@Sehrysh

The weather in its many incarnations provides enough fodder to keep a conversation going without needing to pry into someone else’s personal matters. And that is the art of having a conversation - converse in generalities unless the other person has given you leave to ask more personal questions.

Yep…there are MANY random/general topics and comments that could be brought up on social situation that does not involve someone’s s*x life. And I’m not even referring to something specific like the latest fashion.

For example: Just this past weekend I hung out with 2 women who I barely know during a baby shower. 1 woman is a stay-at-home mom with 2 kids under 4. I asked her questions about her kids, general family (where she grew up, her parents/siblings etc). She asked me about my job, my upcoming wedding anniversary and if we had any plans, general q’s about my family etc. The 2nd woman is single and a radiation oncologist. Once again, we asked general questions about each other’s background/family. We also asked each other questions about our jobs…even know she doesn’t know much about the legal field and I barely know anything about radiation oncology. And with BOTH women…we made random comments about the decor, food, games etc. that was at the baby shower which led to small side conversations. One of our mutual acquaintance at the shower recently got engaged so talking about that led to discussions about general wedding topics. Even though the 3 of us lead very different lives…we somehow managed talk to each other for several HOURS without bringing up each other’s reproductive system into the conversation.