Has it ever occurred to you that those answers HAVE been given again and again? And that some people keep pushing for answers, regardless? Maybe that’s why people get so frustrated and disgusted?
What you call hypersensitivity (LOL!) I call it lack of common sense to use a very personal matter as fodder for “small talk” and lack of intelligence to keep pushing the matter when the person replies with said above polite and generic comments. and yes, it’s not limited exclusively to old desi women, I’ve seen younger, desi/non-desi people do it as well.. The first question can be forgiven by any reasonable person, but it’s the subsequent follow ups that lead to negative feelings.
I’m not sure what qualifies as “crossing the line” for you because I see most of us have posted about incidents that…well…have crossed the line.
You may not be bothered by such questions, doesn’t mean the rest of us who are are are lacking in humor or are being hypersensitive.