Re: Are You engaged/married to a LOSER?
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Frightening Temper:
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Femme, I remember as a kid I used to be very afraid of my father because he had a horrible temper. He could get ticked off at the smallest thing. He was a great guy otherwise, a good provider, play with us and all and everything but somehow, he had no control over his temper, especially toward my mom. Secretly, I was not just afraid of him but started wishing he wasn't around much.
My mom was very tolerant and patient but I'd often see her crying while she was working in the kitchen or doing something but she'd never complain.
When I was around 20, my dad went through major heart surgery and he almost lost his life. I guess things turned around after that. He is now the most calm and polite person and if you neet him, you'd think I made up stories about his temper.
I don't know what changed him but I can totally understand how hard it must be for my mom to have gone through that. I recently asked her how she tolerated it and she said she focused on all his strengths during those moments but there were times she wished time would stop.