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Maybe its just the way I am inferring this and apologies if it is incorrect.
“relaxed guy with a job in finance, consulting, IT business, legal something”
Why do you thinks guys in those fields aren’t that educated? Jobs in most of these fields can be much more high profile and demanding than medicine; and entry requirements and the calibre of people for working in the best places/employers is very high.
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I wanted to say this but didn’t know how to phrase it. Not only this, they could be just as geeky or snobby. I know too many geeky and snobby a$$es in my field.
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I doubt that was her intention. As far as being more demanding then medicine, I don’t agree - none of these fields could result in a life and death situation.
As far as education relative to finance, I can only speak for myself. BSc Math followed up by my current employer paying for me to study MSc stats and also CFA along the way. So a fair few years of reading books and taking exams. Is my job demanding? I’d say yes - constantly keeping updated on the global economy across numerous different markets, having to deal with clients with nakhra, having to go on 6 month placements from anywhere from NY to Singapore and having to travel within two hours notice to anywhere from the Yukon Territory in Canada, to Brazil, Russia, China or heck even Ghana! So pretty demanding I’d say! Just my two cents.
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I agree with @badabing, some girls want everything served on a silver plate from the very start and that’s sadly not how life goes around. So while they reject everyone left and right in search of Prince Charming - it happens more than often that the “loser dude” whom they rejected turns into Prince Charming.
I would rather marry a guy who has the right manners and personality than the right degree - everyone can get a degree, the same cannot be said about manners and personality.
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They didn’t do 8-10 years of schooling and training, that’s what I meant. Their undergrad degrees were also not as intense. But their challenges are different. They’re more real life. Getting along with people. Socializing. Making the right connections. Making the right decisions. Analyzing data well. Interpreting it and delivering it to the public or a particular audience to sell a product. Yes. It’s way more challenging than medicine in some ways, for sure. But it didn’t require 8-10 years of schooling. That’s what I meant in terms of “education”. The books, exams, boards, etc.
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I would gladly accept the guys you think your aunts should have accepted. I am open to those type of rishtas. Read my blogs. My main problem is 1) getting the guy to call 2) getting the guy to meet and 3) getting the guy to keep talking to me AFTER he meets me.
The only few times I’ve rejcted guys - there really was no compatibility. I cringed in their presence because they were just … really weird. I don’t know how else to put it. They came a few feet close to me, and I had to step away.
No one wants a wife who doesn’t want to be touched by them. So I thought it unfair to continue. One is now happily married, and he and his wife are clearly into each other so that’s good. The other is still looking, and I’m sure he will find someone he can connect with and be happy with. It’s just not going to be me.
I think it has to do with how they talk and move. Just total turnoffs.
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..But that assumption is wrong. My older sister is your age. She is a CPA. She has three masters I think (I know she has two for sure). She is now thinking of getting a JD. She is still in school not sure if it’s for JD. She did her two masters with a kid. As far as I know, she has never been out of school! She apparently loves going to school. LOL
People in other fields can have just as much schooling as doctors. You never know.
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I agree that there has to be attraction and chemistry. This was back in the 90’s early 2000’s when they were going through the whole rishta thing.
I have a lot of cousins in their thirties who wanted an Adonis with a Phd, 7 figure salary and no relatives way back in their 20’s. Now they’re having trouble attracting middle income professionals. Sometimes you have to look at what exactly are you bringing to the table that a potential rishta can’t get elsewhere.
The guys you are looking at seem to be rigid and very set in stone. A guy should be able to adapt to any setting/scenario and be able to hold good conversation across a breadth of topics and issues. Me personally, I’m comfortable in my own skin around uneducated wannabe gangsta types as well as wannabe elitists/snobs. Remember, it’s not about the strongest, it’s about the one that can adapt - he survives!
I’m sure you’ll find your other half very soon, you gotta kiss a few frogs to find your prince!
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A lot of other jobs have 3/4 year post undergraduate training and exams. The books, the exams etc etc and then require lifelong learning to stay on top of things in your field / sector so don’t agree with generalizing.
I don’t want to diminish the exams etc but some people (I would include myself in this) are good at it and excel at them. Just because some of these people who excel at exams choose to be doctors and then continue doing it for another 3/4 years is hardly a qualification in my eyes. Its not like you are doing ground breaking research / phd.
In terms of totals, I would say most of the very best people (in terms of academics or other skills) hardly get attracted to medicine these days. The rewards in finance or law or a lot of other fields can be more financially rewarding (if you are really good) and this attracts a lot of the best people towards those fields.
Agree with other posters and yourself that other things are more important, so the above is all besides the point - just don’t agree with the way you condemned a lot very good fields
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I also have mutliple degrees as well. BA w/ a minor and two masters MBA in MIS and MSA.
I’m also probably going to be sitting for the CPA soon (gaaahhh - another thread tho - not here)
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^ you know what? I don’t know. It is what it is. I’m a total effin loser then. And you’re not Muniya. Yay. You win. More degrees, married and kids. Me - one degree, unmarried, no kids.
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I agree, the smartest guy I know, a childhood friend, didn’t even leave school with basic GCSE’s (was in to the whole fight culture, the dude always had my back, still does). He was worth 8 figures before the age of 21 - he has a photographic memory, he never understood why you need to pay to get an education, just read a book is what he says!
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Lol, have no idea what “3 idiots” is, so can’t comment. As far as my friend in question, he’s a financial wizz, especially options, trades a few hours a day from his bedroom. He’s the one that got me in to it way back when I was 15, much to the disapproval of my dad, who wanted me to become a daktar!
and for shame badabing, what have you got to show for yourself after doing english lang?
