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i love being with people and always in contact with them. sch friends, and even aunty jis. and what's more with smartphones, it's so easy to whatsapp acquaintances and in fact i am much closer to them now than ever before.
however, i do have my lonely moments... like right now i am sitting and on gupshup away from every one else.
every one needs some solitude at times. it's healthy.
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I used to be kinda quiet guy..not so much loner and i was not outgoing person. But since it's been 1 year due to my life changes..i've become very social and outgoing guy. And i guess this was missing in my life. And as i live by myself..i am like a leader who plan out our outgoing plans..
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That's interesting. So you like the social interactions -- it's just initiating the process and stepping out of the norm that you find difficult?
Just initiating the process is exhausting for me.... I try really hard to find things to relate to and to just keep the conversation going and I usually run out of things to say and it ends up in an awkward silence...
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For those of you who see yourself as loners, why do you seek out interactions on GS?
(i) anonymity
(ii) I have a lot of time to see what people have written in their post and to think for a perfect reply
(iii) I can stalk :P
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u mean: ** tanhaaiyoN meN tujh se hum-kalaam rehtaa huuN auqaat-e-hujoom meN sunsaan ho jaataa huuN**
OR
'Har taraf, har jagaah beshumaar aadhmi..phir bhi tanhaiyon ka shikaar aadhmi' ?
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I dont understand your question.
But i am definitely choosy.
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Just initiating the process is exhausting for me.... I try really hard to find things to relate to and to just keep the conversation going and I usually run out of things to say and it ends up in an awkward silence...
I find it hard sometimes too. But it gets easier the more I do it. Like getting dressed up, making various topics of discussion, etc. Maybe we make it harder for ourselves by being afraid of that initial struggle.
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Jub sey aap nahi aayey they tou tha, abhi ka pata nahi. 
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Cant understand how colleagues go for lunch together. Lunch time= alone time. ditto after work.
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^i kindaaaaa agree with that. lunch time= alone time. =\
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i am an intensely public and private person at the same time. I can be in the middle of a crazy event one eve with friends old and new just having a blast, and the same day or next I could want to do nothing more than a solo jaunt across the city, wandering, discovering some new places, experiences just for me. Always been that way.
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I like to be with people and enjoy good company, conversation and things!
Its very rare that I want to be alone but there are times, when I want to sit alone and rethink my life to-date
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^ that reminds me of a trip I took to NYC a few years back...my sister was living in Brooklyn at the time, and we planned a "cousins" only get away to go visit her..there were 11 of us all together...of course, with so many people, no one could ever get their shiz together and plan what we wanted to do...so after the second day, I had had enough, and quietly slipped out on my own around 9:30 am, while most everyone was still asleep I made my way to the Brooklyn Bridge...walked it to the manhattan end, and then walked through South Street Sea Port, Battery Park, Ground Zero, and then finally met up with the rest of the crew in Soho by late afternoon.
It was probably my single best vacation memory ever! I've had many more trips to the city since, but had I not explored on my own that day, I wouldn't have ever seen 1/2 those things
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I like being with people, even if it's goig-out to buy milk or get my laundry! I do however have my moments when i'd like to be all by myself (very rare though!)
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Are you a loner? And is your answer variable or dependent on any of the following?
-your stage in life -- you as a child, when you moved away from parents, went to school, got married, etc -where you are -- work, home, out and about, etc -anything else?
EDIT: also, has it changed since/when you have a smart-phone?
I'd say I am a loner. It hasn't changed much with my stage in life.
KC- I can relate. I have has the advantage of studying abroad in several countries during undergrad and grad school. It was a blast in off hours hanging with a group, but there were times I had to just do my own thing. Later during consulting work which took me to places in Asia, Europe and all over US, the solo exploring became a key part of my experience in a different place. I don't know what it is, maybe I just want to see what I want at my own pace and without being influenced or bothered by others... Or feeling that I am doing that. Some of my best memories of explorations are the solo jaunts, even though the craziness with the crew was a blast
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Khatti - what is shiz
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Do you think everyone is a loner at heart? At least at some times? And some people just make the extra effort to connect, for various reasons?
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I have always wondered if I am more social or not so social.
I love people interaction...enjoy making new friends and staying connected with the old. I am always in the mood for a GNO or going out period.
But every week or so...I need time for me and only me. I will spend a day doing things by myself...shopping, mani/pedi, movie, away from the laptop, etc.
I prefer shopping alone.
I have no problem traveling alone or with a group...in fact I think I'd love to travel alone. Is that weird?
Solitude is a great place to visit, not to stay.
I think with all responsibilities, expectations, needs of people around us, and especially in the hyper connected world of today, taking out some time to just be yourself with your own thoughts is important.