Are you a loner?

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Hm.. I don't need a lot of people either. I think having a small, close group of friends doesn't mean you are a loner. Seems to be the opposite.

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hehe being social does feel like work sometimes, doesn't it?

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I just came back from the movies. My friend and I were planning to see it the following week, but I decided to watch it by myself cuz I felt like it. While I do enjoy socializing, I admit that I am a loner sometimes.

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Interesting.I seek that on an online forum because I can remain anonymous.I can (and actually I think I do) keep it all at a low level,the way I like it,and if I want a hiatus I just stay away for a few days,till I feel better and no one bothers.

I am a loner at heart,have always been and will always be.But things have always changed with each phase of life.It was extreme when I was in school,it improved (that is what I think) when I was in graduate school.It changed when I was working,it drastically changed after marriage and then another change came after I had my daughter.

I dont need a lot of people around me.Just one is enough.Unfortunately I always have too high expectations from that one person,so that is not a good aspect of it.I have gone to restaurants alone and I loved it whereas many think it is silly.I can spend and actually enjoy hours of being alone.

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What Niks said. I guess my definition of “loner” is that I’m not scared of solitude?I prefer it over empty relationships. I am comfortable meeting new people and interact well with others, however my idea of the perfect afternoon is spending it alone with a good book and lots of yummy food…does that make me a loner? :hmmm:

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No...some people aren't friends with themselves. Just because you are, doesn't make u a loner.

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That's interesting. I'm not afraid of it either. I like to be alone, watching tv or reading or surfing the net. I definitely like to be alone when I need to shop.

But I find when I have work to do -- housework, cooking, grading, etc -- I'd much rather have someone else present, doing it with me. I guess misery loves company :D

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No that makes you a foodie…:D…another fellow-foodie

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eeeeeeeeee. YES! i think so too, i was just thinking of some people and how they constantly need to be around people...no matter who....they seeem like empty relationships to me. i know im majorly generalizing and all...but its my view...that kinda stuff is pretentious for me..

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^philo, have you noticed my sig? :cb:

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^yess i haveee...and whenever i read it i nod in approval :D hahah

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There is a really good book about it called Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam . He blamed technology for that .

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Why blame anything/anyone. We all have certain traits that are displayed at certain times.

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yup..and pretty sure it wasn't technology when i was like in my early teens. i remember preferring a book and just being alone at times.

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^egjactly

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PHysically I like being alone but I like being able to keep in touch with everyone via FB/online/text msg etc.

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^ I do that too. But is that out of laziness?

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I am a loner and I have always been like this. I am a person who takes initiative when it comes to making friends but I prefer and truly like my own compnay. I go out alone for shopping, eating etc. I am not into movies at all.. so yeah don’t do that. Smartphone really hasn’t change anything for me other than games.. :phati: .. I started a topic on this not too long ago when my SIL commented on me being a loner.. limiting my social life.

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^ do you think there has been any negative effect?

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^^^ Well I just don't have a lot of friends.. that's all.. lol.. But I am a kind of person who does not need a lot of friends. I love shopping which I do alone.. I don't even take my husband with me :D