Croquet, my intention was not to "derail" you threads. I understand that you were trying to have an "open-minded" discussion regarding the topic with Gr8heera.
But an open-minded discussion does not involve calling a woman "chichoran" because she might have opposing views...........and it also does not entail implying that a woman is irreligious simply because she was not born a desi Muslim.
I'm all for patience and tolerance. But there are exceptions. If one lets these transgressions go (after witnessing them) and doesn't stand up for what is right......they can potentially snowball into a persistent and more severe pattern of dysfunctional behavior.
my comment wasnt directed at you velvet, just a general observation. I must've misunderstood because i didnt think heera was calling her chichoori, if he was i think it should be brought into mods notice.