Are women open to dating and marrying younger guys? How big of an age difference would you say is too much? I’m into some older girls like in their mid to late twenties but most of them don’t seem interested and want to get with guys their age or older and even girls my age or a year younger are into guys a few years older. I don’t why it’s a big deal in desi culture.
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Personally nope, I wouldn’t be open to it. I prefer someone a little older or my age is fine too.
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But what’s the reason for women always going for older guys? Like girls exactly my age say that it’s cause they want a guy that has “his sh*t together”, and all the girls I keep attracting are 2-3 years younger than me and kinda immature.
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Right now I’m into this woman that’s like in her early 30s but she doesn’t seem interested and it’s only cause she’s a decade older.
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It’s about maturity. I have talked to guys in their 30s whose immaturity left me bewildered even though they were a decade older than I.
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So if maturity has nothing to do with age as you’ve shared from your experiences then why would you rule out younger guys?
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If I ever come across some very mature younger guy then I might consider it but chances are slim.
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Probably not. Personally I want someone who’s mature and has their life together or has a strong plan and is working their way towards it.
Besides, won’t the guys parents be a little awkwarded out that the potential DIL is older than their son? Maybe times are changing and desi communities are becoming more progressive…not sure 
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But how is a guy a year or two younger than a girl not working towards a goal or something? Not everybody is at the same stage in life at the same age, there many older guys who haven’t finished school and then there are guys in their early 20s that have degrees, a job, or are going onto grad school.
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lol, thirdstring you asked for my personal preference so I’m giving it to you! I’m in my twenties so someone a decade younger than me would be like pre-teen/teenager. Maybe if I was 30 I would consider a 25 year old. But when you’re a girl in your twenties you most likely want someone your age or a little older.
If there was a genuine guy that was 1-2 years younger than me and ticked all the right boxes and we got along well, sure, I’d consider him.
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I’m only talking about a couple years difference, but I don’t get why women in their 30s don’t want a young guy. I ain’t lookin for a sugar mama, I feel like they think young guys want to milk their money lol.
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Not speaking for everyone but one reason may be that they have their life together and they want someone on the same wavelength. What that young guy is going through she’s already been there seen that and worked hard for. She probably wants to spend her thirties enjoying with someone who already has that going on for him. Just one opinion. Some other people may be really happy with someone younger. Different strokes for different folks.
Also, a woman in her thirties who is seriously considering marriage and kids wants that much sooner than the guy in his twenties that she’s dating most of the time. Let’s say a 30ish year old is ready to get married within the year and willing to have kids in 1.5 years is the guy ready too? If they are just dating for fun then that’s different.
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This lady makes it seem like it was an accomplishment for her to marry a younger guy. Some girls must really like the idea but I don’t think many men would want to marry an older woman
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Well two of my friends are dating girls a year and year and a half older than them, so I don’t think most guys mind a girl a little older.
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I want someone around my age range. A little older or a little younger. Since I am not interested in being a housewife or sugar baby or whatever I do not care for putting myself with a man significantly older than myself who “has his **** together.” I prefer someone in a similar socio-economic status who has similar aspirations that I do.
I feel like the reason why women/girls might go for someone older is for more economic reasons. They are willing to put aside attraction for economic security or they want to be in a sugar baby situation. Then you have to consider male/female socialization where females are expected to mentally mature faster while males are not (it’s why the “boys will be boys” mentality persists while young female children are expected to behave significantly older than they should.) Because of this socialization they might not go for younger guys.
Trends can be seen with how people in their 20s and 30s might behave and what they generally would want. Maybe it is because a woman in her 30s is expected to want kids and to be settled down while that cannot be said for men in their 20s (“boys will be boys”).
When you factor in desi culture, you have to remember that it is the families that oversee a lot of the serious relationships and they consider these relationships to be a business deal. Make of that what you will.
Honestly, a lot of your troubles boil down to male/female socialization and expectations of the sexes alongside the desi take on marriage.
P.S.: Then you also have to factor in life experiences. Maybe older woman want someone who is on the same page as them mentally.
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I think its desi parents wish that unconsciously their kids are fulfilling. I know a wedding that was called off because the guy’s mom found out last min that he was a few years younger than the girl. Since I wouldn’t want to be in a situation where anything serious gets dissolved just because of such a trivial thing, I won’t consider someone who is younger. Another observation is that if you are someone under thirty five, you are a bit irresponsible anyway.
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I don’t think its a big deal at all. I’ve met couples who have a ten year gap where the wife is the older one. Makes zero difference between a couple that wants to make it work.
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So you’re saying most brown women would consider a younger guy?
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I don’t know about most as I don’t agree with many conventional ideas. But there are women out there who would not think of it as a big deal.
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She is just a number and anything can be worked out if there is understanding , nothing is perfect sometimes we have to seize the opportunity and make it perfect !! There shouldn’t be any problem