Re: Are we screwed?
[quote="Sahar02"]
Thanks for all the replies, all! I'm going to start replying now.
What's the age cut off in your mind? In your parents? What makes them think that finding a mate in Pakistan will be easier? Is it?
Here in London (elsewhere too) when majority of Pakistani girls reach the age of 19 parents start seeking a rishta for her, when she's 21 parents start worrying!...when 22 parents give her 1 year to find a spouse- then all these girls in desperation rush to the online matrimonal services and ask friends if they have any cousins or brothers who are up for marriage. This age limitation is not only in my parents, but all my friends be it hindu/sikh / pakistanis hold the same mentalilty!... a girl should be gone by the age of 23...if shes still there then chances are shes goin back to homeland. There are some girls who are career minded and tend to rest on this marriage issue for a bit, but once there are ready it is even harder for them to find their spouse because of their high expectations, some don't find any and hit there early 30's...therefore i persoanlly feel its better to be married off in your early 20's.
Reason finding a partner in Pakistan is easier because firslty there won't be any sort of 'seeking the science of mental compatibility' with a potential there- as in my family decisions of yes/no are only based on the appearance i.e. facial cover etc, secondly since theres the whole extended 'baradarai' system there, relatives tend to have a large list of hungry Paky boys who want to meet the west, therefore rishta in Pakistan can be done in no time!....
Good Luck!