Last night my fiance threw me a surprise bday dinner! it was a complete surprise and I was soooo happy. Here’s what made me really sad.
All together it was 20 people at the dinner. ONLY THREE of MY friends showed up. The rest were all his friends that came to surprise me ( I know them all as well through my fiance). Isn’t that sad?? His friends cared enough to come and surprise me and mine decided to not show up?? Whenever my friends need me I’m always there for them. I’m always up for doing anything that makes them happy. I mean couldn’t they come to make me happy? My fiance told me he tried contacting one of my friends because he wanted some friends numbers to invite because they werent on facebook. She didn’t even coordinate with him!!! Are these so called “friends” really friends? I am happy and at the same time I’m upset. I had a great time with everyone that was there. My fiance didnt bother asking why others didn’t show-up But deep inside I’m hurt. Has this ever happened to any of you? or something similar where friends let you down? What do you do with these type of so called friends.
Firstly..Belated happy birthday to you .
And i will say donot feel disgruntled , n i think you shouldnot have spolied your bday .
arey dost hain, forgive them:D
^ I've started to think that they are not really my friends. Dost hotay to aisa nahee kartay! they disappointed me big time. I wonder if anyone else has been through this.
^ I've started to think that they are not really my friends. Dost hotay to aisa nahee kartay! they disappointed me big time. I wonder if anyone else has been through this.
So your friends are pests indeed...hmm
I donot make whoppin number of friends..i donot expect much from their side actually.so i have no experience like this.
:D
simple funda
I have only a handful of people I know that I call my best friends...everyone else is an acquaintance or a friend. I dnt expect anything from anyone that isnt my best friend. These are girls who have seen me through high school, college, jobs, etc. If they all bailed out on me, Ill be hurt. They havent done that. But I wont think they're not my real friends because we have too much love between us. :)
you are really sensitive. you sound like this old friend of mine. i don't even know what i did to her. i just couldn't meet up with her for a while and then all of a sudden this girl goes on a vengeance trip seroiusly. later even when i tried to renew the friendship stuff she was so cold. she wasn't really ready to listen to anything and you know i didn't do anything on purpose.
so please do not turn into one of these types. it is scary and sad :(
is this the first time they have done something like this?
well no because there were times when i flopped on them too and sometimes if they couldnt make it I would understand but on a friend's bday?? maybe I'm just over reacting......I feel better now and don really care at least I got to know how much they care.
i threw a suprise party for my best friend, and invited everyone who i knew she would want there. people who i thought would make excuses turned up and some of the ones who i thought wouldnt miss it for the world came up with lamest excuses ive ever heard. the people who did turn up had taken flexy days off work and used up a holiday day etc just to be there and the best exceuse i got for some of them not turning up was 'i have a really bad headache'. i was livid. nonetheless the party was successful :) those who didnt come missed out on some good cake!!
just a case of forgiving and forgetting, if they do it frequently though, you should talk to them about it instead of being angry.
you know people have other commitments and their own situations, maybe an evening out where there would be a bunch of guys they dont know made them and their families uncomfortable.
How can you assess the quality of your friends based on one night's events?
i think u can. it was her birthday...an important event in her life. i certainly go well out of my way to make it to my friends important events. it is during these important times u get to really know who your friends really are...at least to me. if they did get caught up in something they should atleast be courteous enough to explain why...
i got to know who really cared during my wedding. for example, a friend that took days off from work, one that waited till 5 am alone on the PATH trains to NJ to get back home after my mehendi (she came despite family issues), those that helped my mom out with the chores.... then there were those that I expected much from but they did not bother to be the least bit involved. It was a good thing because Im completely content with narrowing my close friends list and adding them to the 'acquaintance' category...
maverick: 3 good close friends is a pretty good number honey...consider yourself lucky :) its ok to have high standards as far as friends are concerned.