from reading these threads on life1 i get the idea that most ppl dont really have nice things to say about their in laws but are in laws really that bad and i was reading in another thread about how if we put ourselves in their shoes and see it from their prespective how would we feel.
i am sure most of u have sister in laws or brother in laws, so if they were complaining about you what would u do?
I think it's just like the news, we only hear about the murderers and terrorists not the decent people going about their day to day lives.
Lets face it stories about nice in laws are just not that interesting lol.
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:D yeh true but its like girls who are not even married may go in to a marriage thinking omg my inlaws are gona be bad to me jus find it odd.
No, I know some Pakistanis who are very nice inlaws themselves and whose children have very kind inlaws. So I know that positive inlaws do excist, even in our culture. :)
People often ask here advice, they want help with problems or opinoins of other people about something, so that's why you get some negative topics.
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MILs have a bad rep world wide, which most times is unfair.
I think why it is so 'hightened' withinin the aisan community is because many brides have to live with there MIL so the actions of there MIL impacts on them daily. While in other communities it does not really matter how horrible they are as you wont have to live with them.
I'm not sure about that, because I've heard people from different cultures, who don't live with there mother in laws, still having problems with them.
I even had some problems with mine when I was married, even after we stopped living with her in one home. But that was years ago.
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Yes.
All of 'em. Pro Nazi mentality. Kill 'em all. Or find someone who is an orphan by birth. That'll help.
Oh com'on... gimme a break will yaw. Literally all of 'em can be sa bad as it seems? Ofcourse not. We are just getting the wrong impression. Its the MEDIA. Kill ur TV. Everything'll be fine trust me.
I'm not sure about that, because I've heard people from different cultures, who don't live with there mother in laws, still having problems with them.
I even had some problems with mine when I was married, even after we stopped living with her in one home. But that was years ago.
I never said there were no problems, what I am saying is that the problems do not impact on you as much as if you were to live with them. I have major problems with my inlaws, but at least my home is a haven from that, if I had to live with them I would have gotten divirced by now.
That's true. Unfortunately there even are certain inlaws who even manage to make life miserable, even when you're living in a separate home with your husband.
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no not all are bad but most are. lucky girls get good susral. and then it depends on how u hav dealt with them and how understanding n sensible ur partner is. otherwise we all hav a darker side and wrong attitude might bring that side out.
from reading these threads on life1 i get the idea that most ppl dont really have nice things to say about their in laws but are in laws really that bad and i was reading in another thread about how if we put ourselves in their shoes and see it from their prespective how would we feel. i am sure most of u have sister in laws or brother in laws, so if they were complaining about you what would u do?
Yes, yes they are all bad.
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mine personally arent nowhere near bad. But i have seen people here who appear to have rather serious problems.let em vent its harmless.
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My inlaws are great, very kind and caring toward me.
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Alhamdullilah my in laws are extremely sweet. But remember it takes two. You have to give respect to get respect.
If someone asks me if my brother is bad, I will definitely say NO!
But if someone asks me if I want to live away from my brother and his wife after marriage, my answer is definitely YES!
See...just because lots of people don't want to live with their in-laws doesn't mean in-laws themselves are inherently bad. After all, our own parents are someone's in-laws too. But would you want your hubby to live with them? My point is just because you don't want to live with someone, doesn't mean you don't love them.
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^fair enough
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I have great in laws thank God..I have 3 sister in laws and never had a disagreement once with them in almost 20 years. Even my mother in law and I have never had any serious disagreements as we always agree to disagree or one concedes to the other for peace.
But we are all humans..prone to mistakes, miscommunication and misunderstandings and sometimes situations do arise where things are not how all parties want.
Our tolerance to in laws is also different. If our mother tells us off..we might be annoyed or upset for a very short while but it is not significant. If our mother in law says something, we may find it upsetting and annoying and take it to heart for a long time.
I always treat people according to how I would react in another situation. For example, if my mother in law says something..I try to think how I would feel if my own mother said that. If I wouldnt react to my mom, I try to behave the same way with my mother in law.
Again, how I treat my mother in law is related to how I would like my bhabi to treat my mother.
No one is perfect and there is will always be small issues arising but it is up to us to rise above them.
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My in-laws are the most evil people i know. Their own daughters/sisters arent happy, so they think no one else should be happy.
See theres the typical in-laws who are tolerable, sometimes bad but generally ok.
Then theres the evil ones, who would go to any extent to ruin you. Mine are evil.
So i hope you get ok ones!
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Its that stigmatisim we have to live with! I knw many that have nice inlaws.. it al depends on how you get on with. Unless they want $$$ gain.
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No. I love my in-laws. In fact they are more easy going than my fiance!! My in-laws always support me coz they know my fiance can be a bit stubborn sometimes!!!