what other factors can be there X2? And in case of minor's advancement towards an adult, you are saying that it could a young boy flirting with an older female?
err factors like some asshole forcing himself on some helpless child ..boy or girl.
in your attempts in being funny you have decided to make light of those who were assaulted by pervs without any wrong action on their part, boys or girls.
how about pervs that molest mere toddlers, do you think the toddler led them on, the toddler had some esteem issues or was boy crazy, girl crazy?
err factors like some asshole forcing himself on some helpless child ..boy or girl.
in your attempts in being funny you have decided to make light of those who were assaulted by pervs without any wrong action on their part, boys or girls.
how about pervs that molest mere toddlers, do you think the toddler led them on, the toddler had some esteem issues or was boy crazy, girl crazy?
what other factors could there be...indeed.
for most of the part, advancement or no advancement, I cant think of any action that can be regarded as wrong doing on a minors part, no matter what the situation is. And there is no argument that those who reach the extremes of molesting a toddler are the scumbags.
I think my real question is about the early/pre-teens and those who are 'bold' in their actions when dealing with adults vs those are are not, what is the difference and if it could be prevented.
So what is the conclusion? Is religion the answer?
That's a good question, TLK. I'm not sure what the answer would be. Would an athiest child with athiest parents.....who have implemented a positive upbringing....and developed a healthy self-esteem in their child...........be less likely to engage in a relationship with an adult.........compared to a child who has had a religious upbringing where parents did not really develop confidence/self-esteem?
It can depend upon how religion is taught by parents. Religion can be taught in a a dogmatic way that can hurt a person's spirit....undermine their self-esteem...prevent them from using intellect, even. I've seen examples where parents are sooooo strict in teaching religion to their children....their preaching infused with judgmental attitudes about others.......and the kids end up making strange contradictions in their practice of religion.....might even start rebelling.
I think that parents who teach religion effectively....explain the reasons for haram/halal as opposed to just dictating what's sin and sawab...allowed...prohibited. Moreover they explain that religion encourages use of intellect.
And most importantly....they realize that religion (let's say in this case it's Islam) encourages parents to develop healthy self-esteem in children. This falls under nurturing which most religions emphasize. So, parents (through their words/actions) try to build self-esteem in their kids.
I guess I would say that it's more than just religion. A lot has to do with upbringing as well. And religion deals with various aspects of life including how children should be raised, etc. But in the case where the minor knows what is right and wrong.....but endd up being the victim of sexual abuse....where they were forced against their will.....that's different. Or even trickery as Maroush mentioned below in the example child trafficking. And poverty might compel a person to forget dignity, endanger their health, and undertake desperate measures to earn a few bucks. But in a situation where the minor willingly seduces an adult......that allows more room for exploring the psychological reasons behind the minor's actions.
Ok, no one answered my question but reading through the posts, i get what you’re talking about.
On a similar note, UK guppies: there is a documentary which will be aired on the 20th April, on More4; The Dancing Boys of Afghanistan:
“A tradition known as Bacha Bazi, which was banned by the Taliban, is spreading through the country and exploiting the desperation of many poverty stricken children. Young boys are lured from the streets with the promise of a new life as singers and dancers for former warlords and businessman. But as well as being trained, they are traded for sexual favours and subjected to abuse, rape and sometimes even murder.”
True. Pedophiles will have their tactics......but I wonder (to what extent) one's own self-esteem plays a role in prevention. It seems to make sense that a person who is internally strong will find the situation awkward and is less likely to fall for a pedophile's "charms."
Right now I'm reading the book She's Come Undone. And the 12/13 -year-old girl in the story is hit on by her grandmother's attractive and married tenant. The first time he got a little too close to her.........she felt VERY uncomfortable. She avoided the guy (Jack) for a little bit. But Jack kept trying to spend time with her.....called her his "friend"........praised her sooo much......made her seem like he was dependent upon her and that she was the best thing in his life. She fell for it because she was emotionally disturbed. Her father had abandoned her and her mom. Her mom was unstable herself. She had no friends....lacked confidence.
Not sure how much of it you've read so far...but its an amazing book. a tear-jerker really.
Not sure how much of it you've read so far...but its an amazing book. a tear-jerker really.
I take it you've read it. I'm at the part where she and Dante are getting serious and are planning to meet her grandmother for Christmas. Shhh...don't tell me what happens.
I read it twice, with a several years' gap in between. Its interesting to read a work throughout different periods of your life..your perspective changes alot and you become more analytical and critical.
but reading through the posts, i get what you’re talking about.
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