TLK - I have seen some 13 year old girls act PLAIN OLD BOY CRAZY. They don't even know what they are talking about - just want to act cool and sexy and sly
They don't act like that infront of their parents obviously. The more parents tell them to stay away from boys, and enforce segregation - they more crazy they are.
not all 13 yrs old girl are plain old boy crazy, so there got to be a difference, in the upbringing or the company they keep, between two types.
not all 13 yrs old girl are plain old boy crazy, so there got to be a difference, in the upbringing or the company they keep, between two types.
ahem - they are all boy crazy. There are levels of boy crazy.
Level 1: secretly dreaming about meeting or marrying a member of the current boy band that you CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT.
Level 2: squeeeeling or gigling when you see your boy crush
Level 3: asking your friend if she would talk to you your boy crush and then spend 2 weeks analyzing the conversation..
it goes on... you get my drift.
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It's difficult to predict what segregation can lead to. For some, it'll work, but there will be others who will be even more boy crazy and rebellious. I think the best thing a parent can do is watch the news with their kids so that they can see the reports on pedophiles and learn from it.
some younger girls are that naive. Seriously they don’t realize how people can manipulate them.
Well, a 12 yrs old girl is really a kid, so yes she can be that naive.
True, a 12 year old would be more naive. I was thinking of age 14-16... at that age, I doubt the girls are that naive to not know anything.
ahem - they are all boy crazy. There are levels of boy crazy.
Level 1: secretly dreaming about meeting or marrying a member of the current boy band that you CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT.
Level 2: squeeeeling or gigling when you see your boy crush
Level 3: asking your friend if she would talk to you your boy crush and then spend 2 weeks analyzing the conversation..
it goes on... you get my drift.
but I am not talking about these levels. I am talking about (well that's an extreme but a true story) .. bhaijan, you are a doctor, my chest is hurting, could you check (lifting up her shirt)
How do you do that, and if you do, shame on you.
Joke aside, pedophilia is a curse that our society suffers from. When it is combined with homosexuality, it adds on to the ugliness.
Reason I am discussing it in Life that many times, minors face such ugliness from the members of their own families. Older cousins, uncles and what not.
Situation is more grim when the approach is from the minor's side. In the case of adult luring a minor, its usually an adult guy vs a minor girl (or a boy) .. but I've seen young girls in early or pre-teen ages, trying to flirt with an adult male. Have you seen this in our society? Is there a cure? Could religion be the answer?
Apart from religion, what about development of healthy self-esteem? It's possible that minor is flirting....to seek some sort of validation from an older person. Or could it be that the minor did not receive adequate approval/affection from their caregiver.....and is looking for that "father figure" or "mother figure" in the adult? Could sexual abuse be a possibility. I've heard that girls who were sexually abused either become very promiscuous later on in life or they became withdrawn (not the case for everyone, I know).
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There must be minors who are seeking a father/mother figure but you have to understand one thing RV. What we consider a minor is not what Nature constitutes as minor also. 12-13 years old girl is biologically an adult with all the right hormones kicking in and what not. Its a mistake on our part that we shush their needs/feelings/emotions away by labeling them 'minors'. I am not saying that we should encourage them cause they might be biologically mature but maybe not mentally. I am saying that we should be careful about what they might be thinking or feeling.
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You call her ammi and you call me bhai, that makes Kinzz my mother too …
Salam waalida kinzz 
There must be minors who are seeking a father/mother figure but you have to understand one thing RV. What we consider a minor is not what Nature constitutes as minor also. 12-13 years old girl is biologically an adult with all the right hormones kicking in and what not. Its a mistake on our part that we shush their needs/feelings/emotions away by labeling them 'minors'.** I am not saying that we should encourage them cause they might be biologically mature but maybe not mentally.** I am saying that we should be careful about what they might be thinking or feeling.
Agree with the above point. I wasn't trying to justify it either. I was only exploring the reasons why a minor might engage in such a situation. Biologically mature does not necessarily mean mentally/emotionally mature. And adolescence can be a very emotionally confusing and frustrating time for many people.....those same raging hormones which are making you fall in "love" every other day.....also prevent you from thinking clearly. And the lack of experience only aggravates the situation.
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depends on types of pedophiles, are they the luring, fooling types or the attacking types.
its not just about minor and self esteem or being boy crazy, and falling for the advances of some perv, and its not limited to girls as victims.
Agree with the above point. I wasn't trying to justify it either. I was only exploring the reasons why a minor might engage in such a situation. Biologically mature does not necessarily mean mentally/emotionally mature. And adolescence can be a very emotionally confusing and frustrating time for many people.....those same raging hormones which are making you fall in "love" every other day.....also prevent you from thinking clearly. And the lack of experience only aggravates the situation.
So what is the conclusion? Is religion the answer?
its not just about minor and self esteem or being boy crazy, and falling for the advances of some perv, and its not limited to girls as victims.
what other factors can be there X2? And in case of minor's advancement towards an adult, you are saying that it could a young boy flirting with an older female?
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pappu can’t dance sala 
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Sveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetie, I was thinking the same. 
depends on types of pedophiles, are they the luring, fooling types or the attacking types. its not just about minor and self esteem or being boy crazy, and falling for the advances of some perv, and its not limited to girls as victims.
True. Pedophiles will have their tactics......but I wonder (to what extent) one's own self-esteem plays a role in prevention. It seems to make sense that a person who is internally strong will find the situation awkward and is less likely to fall for a pedophile's "charms."
Right now I'm reading the book She's Come Undone. And the 12/13 -year-old girl in the story is hit on by her grandmother's attractive and married tenant. The first time he got a little too close to her.........she felt VERY uncomfortable. She avoided the guy (Jack) for a little bit. But Jack kept trying to spend time with her.....called her his "friend"........praised her sooo much......made her seem like he was dependent upon her and that she was the best thing in his life. She fell for it because she was emotionally disturbed. Her father had abandoned her and her mom. Her mom was unstable herself. She had no friends....lacked confidence.
^I'm NOT saying that all victims are emotionally disturbed (situations vary). And TLK's question is more geared toward minors who ....are not victims....but actually initiate flirtatious advances (although it's possible that the adult is misconstruing the minor's friendly behavior for flirtatiousness). I'm just wondering how much of a role self-esteem/emotional security plays in both situations.
walaikum aslaam uncle