Sheroz
January 9, 2009, 12:20pm
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Why are people finding this topic so offensive? If there can be numerous threads about adultery, molestation and even constant revivals of years old threads on sex and prostitutions, why is suddenly this thread so ‘tauba tauba’? lol.
It’s a given that live in relationships are haram and will never be accepted in the desi culture but the fact is, they do happen. A couple of people I know have done it without their parents knowing, the most easy way to get away with it is if you’re in uni and living away from home. There’s also a sad, sad story that I know of: There’s a desi family who’s been living here since the last 35 years or so. Very well off people and both the parents are extremely religious. When we first met the mother, it was obvious how strict she is about following religion and all so imagine the surprise when we found out that her kids are totally the opposite. Her oldest one was ‘rumored’ to have lived with some hispanic guy earlier who later dumped her and she returned back to her parents. Finally after some time, she agreed to get married and they found her some guy from Pakistan who was here on some kind of visa thing to work. The two of them met, liked each other and a small Nikkah was done. His family did not participate because they were in Pakistan and a year later, they had a beautiful son. Anyway, a couple of years down the road, the husband found out about his wife’s previous live in relationship. Noone knows how and when but instead of asking her about it or saying anything, he withdrew all the money from bank accounts, her jewelry from locker, and basically anything and everything he could get his hands on, and then told his wife he was going to Pakistan because his mother was very sick. The wife said okay and he left. She went to the bank later on to find out nothing was there anymore. She tried calling him but no answer. She would call his house in Pakistan who would hang up the phone as soon as they would hear her voice. Finally after 3 weeks, she went to Pakistan with her son and brother, and that’s when the husband told her he didn’t want to even see her face because he found out all about her past. Now, she’s a single mom raising her son, very quiet and doesn’t really interact much with anyone.
I really hope that when people get into such situations, i.e live in relationships and all, they atleast should think about the outcomes in the future and also how much shame this can bring to their family. Especially girls because sadly in our culture, guys tend to get away with alot of things but as a female, you’re always held accountable for everything.
Sad story really…Her husband shouldve asked her before getting married to her…but i guess the hubby was a gold digger? i mean he married her probably coz of the money i guess?
… Thats y i say there shoudnt be chut mangni paat biya…after engagement couple should spend some time together (at least 1 yr ) i would say…so that they both get to know each other, understand each other, nd u knw 
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