Anyone here old enough to have gone through the rishta process for their own kids?

[TeenDabbyWala]

Re: Anyone here old enough to have gone through the rishta process for their own kids

@MM

^ I can only imagine the red flags that case would raise… I’m sure causing issues for the family that would be applying for the guy’s visa.

Isn’t it super common for people in Pakistan (mostly girls, but def guys as well) to lie about their age? Not just for rishta process, but over all?

So I have a question… How does someone lie about their education during the rishta process? Do people really just take the other family’s word? Is it weird or unacceptable to ask for proof? Like “hey, let’s see that degree you’re so proud of!” nudge nudge, wink wink. .. Ok Maybe there could be another way to ask, but seriously? A major decision that, Insha Allah, will last for ever… You just take the other person’s word and hope they’re good people?

Lying happens in cases where both sides are complete strangers. It’s difficult to verify information. Some people don’t like to provide information. Look up a recent thread from PCG about court documents she found online posted in a public website, and even to that some posters were saying to not bother looking because it shouldn’t matter.

I have heard of people straight up asking to see the degree, green card and various other documents. I am sure some people mind, and don’t want to show it.

You just take the other person’s word and hope they’re good people?

Umm.. welcome to arranged or “whatever the new term is where the guy and girl get to know each other briefly” marriage.