Re: Anyone Else unable to entertain the notion of a desi wedding?
^^ same here. No mehndi or other big functions. Jst rukhsati and walima and there were close family and friends. It was mutually agreed as I didn't want to burden my dad with a huge bill and my DH was footing the bill on his side so was happy about it. Weddings are such an expense. Talk to your parents politely about it and they will probably agree.
Exactly. There are better uses for money. I've heard of people spending up to $80k on a single function. Another efficiency tactic we used was to have the same reception for both myself and my bros marriages.
Yes desis have tendency to get carried away as do ppl in any other culture . American weddings are even mor e over the top and it is sad when the couple splits after a brief period. But I think no have any festivity is a bit too much. No food or drink? Yaar at least be welcoming to your guests. Biryani, salad, raita, and soft drinks are not that expensive. It’s evening time ppl will be hungry. Thats fine I you can’t afford it then have some close friends cook the food for you. If budget is an issue then make veggie biryani, mater pulao, or chicken biryani. But too much kanjoosi is respectful to your well wishers. If it is someone who is very poor then expenses should not be a hindrance to getting married.