First off, a big congratulations :)
Secondly, I think you have misunderstood the whole concept about ovulating and having periods. You can get pregnant without having had a period as you only need an ovulation. Usually, normally a period arrives after you ovulate. You dont **need a period to ovulate.** Just wanted to tell you that.
BEst of luck :)
yeah somebody told me that but i still dont understand. so when did i ovulate if my last period was on jun 15??
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^ Probably in August, according to your due date. The date of ovulation has NOTHING to do with the previous period!!!
My story.... i have been married now 4 years and have been trying for a baby for 2 1/2 years. I have PCOS and was not ovulating, have been through the whole clomid, metphormin, checks etc etc, started ovulation, had my tubes checked and bingo.... fell pregnant only to miscarry within 4 weeks, apparantly the "sack" was not growing and it was a weak pregnancy that would not last, about 6 months later i had whats referred to as a chemical pregnancy, again lost it within days.
i ovulate, hubby is fine in all accounts, my problem now????? age im 39.
it depresses me so much, cause as the months turn into years the chances become slimmer and slimmer.
i am grateful i have a wondeful husband who is extremely supportive as is his family, however my own need is still there and it hurts every month that goes by.
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Clothesmad, I do wish you every success. As you say, you do ovulate and your hubby's ok too, so there is every chance that given time you should fall pregnant inshallah.
Have you considered IVF as an option to try to increase the chances? If u do consider it, think VERY carefully bcos there's only 1 on 3 chance of being successful, it is an absolutely emotional and physical draining rollercoaster that can leave you in a worse state than you began with.
My belief is (and always has been) that life is given by Allah ONLY and if Allah wills then NOTHING can stop you from having a baby. But if it is not in Allah's will, then nothign can make it happen.
Take all steps to help yourself to gain optimum fertility and ABOVE ALL do not let it take over your life. Think of other long term goals as well and try to focus on them also. i know this sounds cliched, but trust me I know this to be true in many situations, WHEN U R NOT THINKING ABOUT IT, IT CAN HAPPEN!
You are in my prayers.
Re: Anyone else trying to conceive?.. Willing to share your tips, experiences etc?
Something that may help, to those couples trying, wake up for tahajjud prayer and pray with all your heart.
Also pray "Ishrah" namaz, I think this like a 2 rakat prayer sometime after sunrise.
I think someone told to read Surah Imran also.
Oh, and if u can GO FOR HAJJ! Really and truly, some people are really amazed to find that their prayers have been answered sometime after they return.
Sometimes people give things like IVF a few tries and it doesn't work out for them. Rather than go through another harrowing try at IVF, another option would be to follow a more spiritual experience that is altogether MORE PLEASANT and absolutely amazing. What can be more amazing than praying directly to the giver of all life on the day that Allah says he will answer the prayers of his pilgrims, inshallah.
My story.... i have been married now 4 years and have been trying for a baby for 2 1/2 years. I have PCOS and was not ovulating, have been through the whole clomid, metphormin, checks etc etc, started ovulation, had my tubes checked and bingo.... fell pregnant only to miscarry within 4 weeks, apparantly the "sack" was not growing and it was a weak pregnancy that would not last, about 6 months later i had whats referred to as a chemical pregnancy, again lost it within days.
i ovulate, hubby is fine in all accounts, my problem now????? age im 39.
it depresses me so much, cause as the months turn into years the chances become slimmer and slimmer.
i am grateful i have a wondeful husband who is extremely supportive as is his family, however my own need is still there and it hurts every month that goes by.
awww cloethesmad hugs to u. hang in there. i know its v frustrating. esp what u have gone thru is v v painful i can understand. being pregnant and losin the baby later is a feelin i hope not even my enemy feels. but yeah, age can and dus sometimes become a major factor in situations like urs. were u married before this or its ur first marriage? do u have any kids? keep tryin. as per my experience the more u stress abt it the LESS chances of u to conceive. after tryin for 1 yr, i had just stoppped worryin too mch abt it and voila, i was pregnant MA. strted 4th month today. IA may Allah Tallah give u a healthy baby soon. all my love and prayers r with u :) have faith in Allah.
Clothesmad, I do wish you every success. As you say, you do ovulate and your hubby's ok too, so there is every chance that given time you should fall pregnant inshallah.
Have you considered IVF as an option to try to increase the chances? If u do consider it, think VERY carefully bcos there's only 1 on 3 chance of being successful, it is an absolutely emotional and physical draining rollercoaster that can leave you in a worse state than you began with.
My belief is (and always has been) that life is given by Allah ONLY and if Allah wills then NOTHING can stop you from having a baby. But if it is not in Allah's will, then nothign can make it happen.
Take all steps to help yourself to gain optimum fertility and ABOVE ALL do not let it take over your life. Think of other long term goals as well and try to focus on them also. i know this sounds cliched, but trust me I know this to be true in many situations, WHEN U R NOT THINKING ABOUT IT, IT CAN HAPPEN!
You are in my prayers.
v true!! like i said in my post earlier, the more stressed u r the more less likely for u conceive. stop worryin too mch abt it. focus on somethin else.
clothesmad, actually ur nickname shud have been mine cus i m also clothesmad, not exactly clothes mad but FASHION mad!! so concerntate on dressin up nicely, matchin ur clothes with shoes handbags when u go out for parties. trust me when u see me i will b ordinary pathetic clothes at home but when i go to parties i dress up like a diva. hehehe so i mean take interest in things that u particularly enjoy. that shud keep ur mind busy. trust me. many nites ive just thot of which dress goes with what, what accessories i will wear etc. hehehe. not just this, keep urself bz in other things if not this. gud luck!
and listen full stop, its ridiculous of ur ILs to ask for reports.. thats a personal thing and i think ur hubs shud take a stand. even if u guys have prb, its embarassing to show it to them. trust me after 2 yrs of my marriage ppl were askin me too.. some even after 1st yr but that was ok for me. but after 3rd yr it was too mch and ppl strted sayin karlo and all that crap. i had strted tryin then before that i was workin for 2 yrs so that made ppl shut up to an extent but didnt keep them quiet. so honey, i know ive been thru it, its v v hurting and embarassing when ppl ask and dun understand that its our own wish ot planning. its better to say u r plannin than jab Allah ki marzi cus after sum yrs they are like test karwao and stuff... sympathies and all. so b normal. tell ppl u strted tryin now and etc. btw full stop y were u not tryin for 3 yrs? career, not ready or wot?** it helps to let ppl know ur plans in initial stages itself so no one doubts u and ur hubs
we didnt start trying for a baby in beginning of marriage becoz i felt i wasnt ready and also we were both working full time and was still living in joint family. we both felt we'll start trying properly once we get our own house and are able to stand up on own two feet u know wat i mean. but i never took the pill or any contraceptive method either, it just didnt happen.i did have irregular periods and sum very heavy at times but never resulted in pregancy, maybe i was very stressed anyway cuz of the whole lifestyle management back then, but all this bad interrogation from family only startd since we moved into own house, its been over a year. ..we have explained many times what we're goin thru but my inlaws are just those kinda ppl who just wanna know the deepest personal detail,even tho we're both fine but they still say 'lok kya kaehn ge?' i totally understand that but why cant they also say Allah ki marzi, my hubs too weak to make a stand, thats the prob for me becoz i have to speak up n answer to them all and sumtimes the frustration gets the better of me....
No i don’t have any kids, i married late 
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I have been reading nafal with Esha namaz and also 2 nafal for forgiveness every day for i don’t know how long, we did Umrah this May, and thankfully i am a 5 times a day prayer type of person.
i have huge amounts of dua from both my parents and In laws, but like you all say when Allah wills thats when it will happen.
i have debated IVF, but i don’t know why something just stops me from going that extra mile, even though my friends are bugging me about it.
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Clothesmad,may Allah make things easy for you.
We conceived through IVF,Alhumdullilah.
It was a stressful experience but if all goes well,so worth it.
All the best!!
Are you seeing a Reproductive Endicrinologist or your Gynecologist for these meds? Has anyone found that your egg count low? Or that the quality is poor?
I’ve found seeing an RE made a WORLD of difference, and I’m glad that the minute I said I was TTC, my OBGYN referred me to one (knowing my issues).
yeah somebody told me that but i still dont understand. so when did i ovulate if my last period was on jun 15??
Theoretically your ovulation is predicted 12-15 days from your last periods first day.
So if 15th june was your first day of mens then you theoretically ovulated on the 27-30th june. I hope that gives u come clearation
we didnt start trying for a baby in beginning of marriage becoz i felt i wasnt ready and also we were both working full time and was still living in joint family. we both felt we'll start trying properly once we get our own house and are able to stand up on own two feet u know wat i mean. but i never took the pill or any contraceptive method either, it just didnt happen.i did have irregular periods and sum very heavy at times but never resulted in pregancy, maybe i was very stressed anyway cuz of the whole lifestyle management back then, but all this bad interrogation from family only startd since we moved into own house, its been over a year. ..we have explained many times what we're goin thru but my inlaws are just those kinda ppl who just wanna know the deepest personal detail,even tho we're both fine but they still say 'lok kya kaehn ge?' i totally understand that but why cant they also say Allah ki marzi, my hubs too weak to make a stand, thats the prob for me becoz i have to speak up n answer to them all and sumtimes the frustration gets the better of me....
dun u just HATE that!!! my hubs is like that too.. readin ur post made me wonder wot wud he have done if his parents asked for reports... hmmm.. i guess like a so called farma bardaar son he wud have given to their cheap request.
i also had the same prb women wud ask me... i guess its a woman to woman thing, they cant ask the guy v directly so they end up askin the woman. i know its frustrating to be answerable to everyone and ur hubs get to ans once or twice in months. theres no point in tellin ur hubs to stand for u cus they always like takin things lightly and if ur hubs is like mine, he wud say take it easy, ans lightly casually why r u so stressed abt it. if someone asked him he wud cooly answer and sometimes in a gud natured humourous way too... its difficult for us to answe that way cus we are tired of answein everyone plus we r indirectly reminded and made to feel guilty of not havin a baby (whether its career reason or u r actually tryin etc) hang in there and PLEASE stop worryin.
Theoretically your ovulation is predicted 12-15 days from your last periods first day.
So if 15th june was your first day of mens then you theoretically ovulated on the 27-30th june. I hope that gives u come clearation
yeah that i know but if i ovulated then i shud b 18 weeks by now as per my report. its damn confusing!
u r so on the rite track. i m not too religious but since i became preg i have tried to offer atleast 3-4 namaz in a day. I feel so so mch better. and this is the least i can do to thank ALLAH SWT really! pls continue prayin. read Surah Imran, Surah Maryam also. i think u really shud consider IVF as an option becus of ur age… if it was otherwise i wud have advised u to wait a few more months but i guess its better to go 4 IVF straight away.
yeah that i know but if i ovulated then i shud b 18 weeks by now as per my report. its damn confusing!
Hehe :) True! Human body is complex.
As i remember you said you are a PCO patient, so you are not regular. The above mentioned index/method is for people who are regular, those simply dont apply for you. Thats why its confusing for you. Not being regular means its hard to "predict" when you ovulated based on your previous period. However, with an ultrasound/Echo the doc will be able to tell you when the baby is concieved thus assume your ovulation date. Because no ovulation, no pregnancy, na. I think in such cases the docs dont count your pregnancy weeks from your last period, rather they just add 2 weeks to the date when you concieved. Not sure though.
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Salaams all.. Hope you ladies are all well.
Not been on here in recent months as been very busy and was lucky enough to get the chance to visit back home (Pakistan) over the xmas hols..
Back now and just wondered how we are all doing? I hope some ladies will return with good news..!!
Barfii..
Hi all,
i have finally decided to go for IVF, i have my first consultation in March, so will keep you all updated.
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Best of luck clothesmad..you'll be in my prayers.
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Salaams..
That's great.. I really hope all goes well. Sending you tons of goodluck and I will remember you in my Dua's.. Keep us updated!!