There's plenty of muslim marriage sites about which are UK based. It just takes time to find someone you click with. There's also word of mouth, friends of friends etc.
How can they still be looking if she's going to get married in 4days? Surely if you'll drop the guy from pakistan just to marry someone from the UK in a heartbeat then her heart isn't in it 100% and it shouldn't happen in the first place?
It's okay. I wasn't offended :)
And to clarify I think you got it wrong, they are hoping to get her married. They are going to pakistan just to have a look around and see if there someone suitable. Its not like shes got someone lined up. lol
No they have not picked someone out in Pakistan, don't be ABSURD! they're going to Pakistan to see if they are able to find someone suitable.
My question wasn't absurd. You need to improve your communication. Going to Pakistan "to get married" (which is what YOU wrote), and going to Pakistan in order to search for a rishta are two completely different situations.
So you still haven't answered.....exactly how many guys did your friend reject before giving up on UK? 10? 20? 50?
In my experience decent guys in the UK get married early ... Either to broader family members or to the daughter's of people in their family friend networks ... So single nice men are hard to find ... I would urge any religious man with daughters in the UK to either empower his daughters to be socially strong and make friends or to form very strong bonds with the wider community.
^Not sure about the early bit.. From what I’ve seen the “good” guys usually marry after uni and when they’ve become financially settled.. I don’t personally know of any guy marrying before 25.. Average seems to be late twenties to early thirties here.. Definitely agree with the last bit of your post.. I think a lot of girls are put at a big disadvantage when their parents don’t encourage them to have a social life.. then suddenly turn around and say “it’s time to get married”
Also as mentioned in other threads it would help a lot if most weren’t restricted to a certain caste or race.. That cuts down your options massively..
She did not call your question absurd on the contrary she called you absurd all in caps which I find very insulting. Your points are very valid. OP should be banned or given infarction points. I am sure if I said something like that I would be banned or infarcted.
people are generally trying to remain inside their own 'biradary'/caste etc
they don't like to marry outside their caste. Urdu speaking won't marry punjabis and vice versa, etc.
Parents discourage kids from socializing, and then they have these negative stereotypes. Oh that boy is a player, that guy speaks to too many girls, he has a lot of girl-friends, etc . Not to mention, social media kind of lets it all out these days, lol. Things that used to remain hidden, these days are staring you in the face......
but marrying in Pak also has a great risk that the other party is marrying only for immigration/settlement to UK. This has to be avoided. But you can't blame people in pak, things are so bad there people will do anything to get the hell outta there. It takes a lot of adjustment for both sides.
The guy/girl coming from Pak to UK will need to adjust to social norms, how things are done, whats expected from whom, etc etc.
The UK spouse would be trying to teach the other person everything about the system, help them in employment, etc. It is a big responsibility and a change for everyone. If any of the parties is not serious in this, things can easily go downhill......
