One of my best friends is on her way to Pakistan in 4 days to get married and its just left me frustrated at where all the decent guys in the UK have gone!
She’s just turned 24, a wonderful person optimistic funny super smart, a fully qualified teacher and really Islamic yet her parents have had no luck with guys here. Too many have girlfriends, or crazy overwhelming families, do drugs or have spent time clubbing with no serious ambitions to settle down.
Clearly you must be an anomaly lol as this is is the kind of person I would choose for her and I know her well
They go abroad as they’ve looked and found most guys they’ve met to be wanting. You said your ‘open’ to the idea but that itself seems like a statement where your on the lookout but not truly ready to settle
It seems like the decent girls look to get settled sooner and so by the time the decent guys realise that they want to settle down, the girls they want are already taken.
Well it would be great if you could tell me where these places may be. As they are still looking and I would love to be able to make a suggestion that seems remotely decent to her. Im her best friend and im finding myself useless in helping her out. I just want her to end up with someone who she can have a good life with and talk to about cultural things which they can both relate having been raised in the same country.
BTW was not stereotyping, just speaking of her experiences. Did not mean to offend.
So exactly how many guys did your friend/her parents go through before deciding to give up on UK altogether? 10? 20? 50?
If she’s the one going to PK to get married…why are YOU frustrated? If your friend and her parents are happy with their choice of groom, then why aren’t you happy?
When I say “open”, I mean i’m not actively looking for a wife but I do wanna settle down, if the right person came along. I’ve come across a few interesting girls in the last few years but found out later on they are engaged to some guy in pakistan. Not much I can do about it..
There’s plenty of muslim marriage sites about which are UK based. It just takes time to find someone you click with. There’s also word of mouth, friends of friends etc.
How can they still be looking if she’s going to get married in 4days? Surely if you’ll drop the guy from pakistan just to marry someone from the UK in a heartbeat then her heart isn’t in it 100% and it shouldn’t happen in the first place?
No on the contrary. Nice meaning god-fearing religious honest trustworthy conscience of their deen . Having differing opinions is not an issue. It simply means there is room for compromise and meeting in the middle with certain decisions.