This is the attitude i think is very negative. Do you have to say the same when somebody advises you to sit down and clear out your issues with your mom or dad?! I hope not. Then why can’t we give the same respect to our inlaws? Or for that matter any elder person. I am not saying go beg them but i dont see how it makes any small if they intiate to solve any issues there may be.
And talking about utopia, even here there are some very committed and God fearing people so i dont think its about utopia but only about clearity and goodness of your heart and soul that makes you think deeper than your whims. Mind you, i never said everything is gonna be glory by being your good self but atleast it gives you that satisfaction that you did your part and honestly. Not all good is well recieved in this world but that shouldnt make you not do it especially if you believe in the life after.