any Muslim singles

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Re: any Muslim singles

@PyariCgudia

No, I’m here.

My recommendation, since I’m in the same situation as you, fast forward 5 years, I’d say it’s important to

1. Be involved in the community. Sadly, not so that guys can get to know you, because that’s useless, since no mom allows her son to marry someone he wants to marry. But rather so the aunties get to know who you are. And make sure your mom is out there involved also, so they can talk to HER when they have some ideas for matchmaking, because no one will find it appropriate to talk to a girl directly about her own marriage. Backwards Victorian ideas still at work. :k:

2. Think of importing. Guys from back in Pakistan or even India are very enterprising, brilliant, ambitious. This can be tricky, since the main motivation for marriage on their side will always be a green card. If you’re ok with a business deal blossoming into something real, this isn’t a bad way to go. Stay away from the mbbs guys, they are not getting med seats in the US anymore. :k:

3. Get involved in ISNA, and other such orgs. Be prepared to be working alongside other such brilliant, single, lonely, angry women in their late 20’s and 30’s who are also there just to bag a husband. And sure I guess they might care a lil about their charity while they sit there looking very bored at the charity table. :k:

4. It is sad that there are many girls out there like us. I forsee a huge group of us who will just age lonely and die alone in nursing homes. In which case, we need to look into adopting a kid. Be careful, because most people will think you got pregnant out of wedlock. So don’t adopt a black baby, because they’ll be horrified you did the dirty with some African American guy, even if you show them the adoption certificate. :k:

Thanks. Very good suggestions.

1. My parents don’t like going out. They think some guy will show up and ask them to marry their daughter. Unrealistic ideas.
2. Its possible to import but its very hard for them to find a job. And if I work, then I know that I’ll have to be working with other males and females. And if he’s not ok with that, then thats just close-mindedness. Its hard to have a job and not talk to the opposite gender. The guy I recently talked to, he would talk about his female friends very openly with me. Meaning that we both were open with each others and trusted each others. The reason I havent been able to find someone myself is because these ppl are too extreme. They’re either very open; clubbing/smoking/drinking/etc or very strict; not allowed out/no movies/no tv watching/etc.
3. I’ll have to search for such an org in Canada near me.
4. Haha my mom would think something else about me if I do decide to adopt a kid. That’s what I am thinking too, live and die alone.

So how are you now anyway? Still single?