I should have clarified, by “better deal” I mean by being settled and yes…money. Im sure personality and character wise they’re not any better or worse than guys here, but the money part plays a big factor.
You can call it being shallow or whatever, but money matters. First of all theres the hassle and uncertainty of immigration matters. For some its smple and for others its a much more complicated deal. Secondly even an educated guy who comes to US finding a job isn’t easy (well its not easy for anyone these days). Either the girl is working to support them or they’re getting help and for alot of guys that can be a blow to their ego. Im not saying those marriages are doomed but the beginning years can be very difficult.
And I still think a couple who start out on the same level (ie both settled in US or move to a new country together) have it easier than the ones who start out on different levels.
Its just that kind of thing that if ure already in that situaiton u make it work to the best of your abilities, but if you had to go back and do it, you would choose not to get in that situation.
its not hte same with women who come from Pakistan. Most of the time the dude is already settled and can support a family. Its natural and normal for a woman to stay home whether there are kids or not—not for a man, and even the most open minded dude will feel a blow to his ego when he sees he cannot provide the way he wants to his wife.