Would you reject a rishta if the girl’s or guy’s parents were divorced? If yes why?
Would you wanna know why they got divorced, before you made a decision or would that be of no consequence.
What’s the desi norm with these kinda situations?
It’s probably different for a guy than it is for a girl. Like most things guys can get away with a lot of things that aren’t don’t look too great on a girl’s marriage resume.
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My parents divorced when I was 15 years old. If any guy or family would "reject" me because of my parents divorce then good riddance! They would clearly be doing me a favor.
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that’s a bit ridiculous 
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When you have norms such as caste and skin color, then this doesn't seem too far fetched either :)
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there is never ONE reason why one would reject a rishta...its always a host of reasons.
Sad, but true :hinna:
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True that.
Like partyslims said, nothing’s too ridiculous when you’re Desi.
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i personally would not reject a guy if his parents were divorced.
yes in our culture many girls do get rejected on the sole reason that their parents were divorced or even separated. that is the reason many women chose to stay in horrible marriages with terrible partners just because they fear that if they get divorced their daughters would not be accepted in marriage by anyone.
then some people reject a guy or a girl of a broken home because of the psychological and emotional effects the kids from broken families have on them and that at times are difficult to be understood and dealt with by a spouse who who has not gone through such circumstances.
I think desi girls would get judged harder if her parents were divorced than desi guys would.
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i personally would not reject a guy if his parents were divorced. yes in our culture many girls do get rejected on the sole reason that their parents were divorced or even separated.** that is the reason many women chose to stay in horrible marriages with terrible partners just because they fear that if they get divorced their daughters would not be accepted in marriage by anyone. **
then some people reject a guy or a girl of a broken home because of the psychological and emotional effects the kids from broken families have on them and that at times are difficult to be understood and dealt with by a spouse who who has not gone through such circumstances.
I've seen that too, women just refusing to accept that their marriage is beyond repair. The stigma against divorce is a major reason for that.
But that is a topic for another day, "Why some people just refuse to accept their marriage is over?" or how "Among Desis divorce is a man's prerogative and women are mere victims to it."
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No. The parents of my SIL divorced when she was young and her mother remarried but that did not influence our decision and my brother married her.
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I'd not reject it at all.
I would try to get to know him to see if WE are compatible or not...his parents' marriage is their business. I would - however - make sure this person isn't in anyway still suffering from any consequences.
People ask me for the why's of my divorce alllll the time. I don't mind in fact I think I'd rather talk about those things now than later on.
If this is a rishta and you're talking to the girl and she asks you - in an effort to get to know you - why your parents got divorced...its not big deal.
If its being made an issue - you need to lose her # and move on.