What do you do if your 4 year old said one of her friends at school slapped her.
She said her teacher did tell the other girl off and she said sorry.
I am not witness to any of this and this males me want to cry but I know I need to grow up and be strong. What do I do and is this something 4 year old do.?
She did the best thing. Told the teacher and teacher took action. Khalas. Its a learning curve.
As long as your daughter knows she can approach a grown up with schoolyard issues, she is set.
For smaller things, you can teach her to tell the other child to stop please, as it is hurting them. If the other child continues, tell a grown up
Girls are worse than boys. They start early.
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The school didn't call u to inform you of this? I would ask the school why I wasn't contacted about it and what will be done in the future to prevent this from reoccurring
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your daughter did the right thing and told her teacher. My daughter at 4 used to sit quietly after any kid misbehaved with her or snatched anything from her and I always told her to standup her for herself and complain to the teacher instead of sitting quietly.
This will get better ....... some children are very spoiled and are taught or little manners at home and hence they are like this at school.
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The school didn't call u to inform you of this? I would ask the school why I wasn't contacted about it and what will be done in the future to prevent this from reoccurring
Do you really want to be called on every little playground tussle?
They are children.....this happens.
Teachers are taught how to handle such situations in a tactful manner. Trust them.
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I didn't expect a call. why would they call? She seemed fine just a tad upset.
I did speak to the teacher she said the girl in question had suddenly started misbehaving this week and hitting everyone. so not personal to my daughter and they were teaching her to not do that. otherwise the girl is not a malicious child by nature she seems sweet. Anyway the teacher and myself reiterated to my daughter to make sure to tell a teachers if ever happens again.
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Today a child in my class punched another girl on the playground. The girl who got punched was fine, no injuries so we did not contact her parents. I had a mini conference with the girl who had punched. I mentioned the incident to her parents.
So yeah, teach your kids to say 'No, I don't like when you ....." when they are having issues with another child. Teach them to speak to an adult if another child is constantly bothering them.
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Also understand that your child is/might be a little sensitive as she has moved to a new country and her father is not close to her. When she comes to you, she might not be complaining but looking for some comfort from you.
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Yes. I want to know when another kid slaps my child so I can talk to my child about it and teach them what to do in these situations
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Yes. I want to know when another kid slaps my child so I can talk to my child about it and teach them what to do in these situations
What will you teach your child in those situation?
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^ good question....I'm curious too.
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I will teach my kid to use his/her words and that hitting is not ok. They have to know to stand up for themselves but sometimes walking away may be the best option. I want my child to know that I will protect them and I am willing to take actions to make sure they feel safe at school.If someone slapped me... I wouldn't just stand there so I don't expect my kids to either. I would tell them not to play with the aggressor if the behavior continues
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id tell mine to slap them back
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I will teach my kid to use his/her words and that hitting is not ok. They have to know to stand up for themselves but sometimes walking away may be the best option. I want my child to know that I will protect them and I am willing to take actions to make sure they feel safe at school.If someone slapped me... I wouldn't just stand there so I don't expect my kids to either. I would tell them not to play with the aggressor if the behavior continues
you can teach that without knowing every little thing that happens in the classroom. It is also a learning process for the kids, learn how to solve problems, resolve conflicts, make friends, talk to each other, behave appropriately in various social situations. You don't want to spoon feeding kids all the times, you have to give them space to help them learn how they will handle difficult situations.
In the situation posted by the OP, the child before approaching the mother, approached her teacher which is appropriate.
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you can teach that without knowing every little thing that happens in the classroom. It is also a learning process for the kids, learn how to solve problems, resolve conflicts, make friends, talk to each other, behave appropriately in various social situations. You don't want to spoon feeding kids all the times, you have to give them space to help them learn how they will handle difficult situations.
In the situation posted by the OP, the child before approaching the mother, approached her teacher which is appropriate.
Excellent post.
Many people completely overlook the importance of letting children learn to problem solve on their own.
This is often what leads to adults that have no clue how to resolve conflicts.
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id tell mine to slap them back
an eye for an eye.....often makes the world blind.
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id tell mine to slap them back
Really... ?
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well if the other kid isnt going to resolve a disagreement peacefully and slaps my child then my child should slap back.but first yes I will tell my child to resolve it verbally first.
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I think its important to find out if this is a one off or a reoccurring problem.
Either way, i would recommend children from a young age be taught to stand up for themselves and learn some form of defence. Not necessarily just for the playground but for outside aswell.
I think for childs age this was handled fine and sensibly. If problems persist then i would recommend visiting the other childs parents aswell as a more senior teacher.
According to her location, the streets already have no names! 
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well if the other kid isnt going to resolve a disagreement peacefully and slaps my child then my child should slap back.but first yes I will tell my child to resolve it verbally first.
we're talking about 4 year olds....how many 4 year olds have you seen that know how to resolve a disagreement "peacefully"?