simple
1) told begum that her and my issues stay between her and me. her family does not get involved, mine does not get involved unless we sit down talk about it and decide that is what is needed, concern being I had seen too many cases where every tim dick and harry was involved in some couple's affairs and complicated things
2) told family that my married life is my business and unless there is some major concern that how we live our life should not be a matter of debate plus if there are any concerns with what my wife does, says, wears, eats, watches, cooks, to let me know privately and I will manage.
item 1 is still observed pretty firmly, we dont want to get people involved in any issues, we address things and resolve them as a couple.
item 2 is mostly a moot point now because everyone is used to everyone else and understand personalities, boundaries and that reduces chances of miscommunications, misunderstandings, bruised feelings etc etc
but there, to me, that helped a lot.
We agreed on point number 1 too and its a blessing because I hate those ladies who tell every single thing to their mommies.
Point number 2 is great too but at the beginning of marriage life some of my relatives or in laws were like she did this or that but ALHUMDILILLAH my hub took care of it very well and after that no one speaks about me on his face. Well my mother in law is understanding mashallah and she never speaks about me.
Well seriously it depends on your husband too much how much respect he is giving you and how well he is taking care of you.Alhamdulillah I am blessed.:)