My husband has really annoying phone habits. Whenever I am talking to him he starts talking to someone else in the middle. He never says “hold on”, he just starts a conversation with his family members. I find that sooooo rude. My best friend does the same thing but I barely talk to her so I don’t mind keeping my annoyance under check but I get really frustrated when my husband does it. I tried chatting with him on msn but he does the same thing there too. He would start talking to his mom or sister and I would get replies after 10 or more mins and then I would just give up and sign out. Then there’s the background noise. In my house when someone’s phone rings we all shut our mouths and mute the tv volume until that person has had a chance to walk away to their room for privacy. In his house whenever I call his family makes so much noise in the background that I can barely hear him. No one bothers to mute the tv or stops talking while he’s answering the phone and getting up to leave the room. When he’s in his room there’s constant knocking on his door or his mom or sister screeching in the background or his sisters’ kids would be screaming down the house. I have become soooo frustrated that I’ve stopped talking to him. Now when he calls and there’s noise in the background I just simply hang up. It’s starting to piss him off too and now he doesn’t bother calling either. I don’t know how to resolve this issue because I’ve tried talking to him but it hasn’t done me any good in the past 2 years. How do you deal with people with annoying phone habits without the obvious solution of simply not talking to them?
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Tell him and if he doesn't understand then have same amount of background noise when he calls. He ll understand then.
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I am also in long distance relationship with my husband, the best solution is to tell him exactly what you are telling here, it will be helpful, i hope:)
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Try to ignore it...everyone has different levels of tolerance. He probably doesn't mind the noise because he's used to it now. You are not.
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Its just not polite to do so...If you're talking to some you should give them your full attention just like you would if they were in front of you. You should let him know that.
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It should not take that long for him to get up and go to his room bear with backgrnd noise till then. Of course the door banging - no soln for that.
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It should not take that long for him to get up and go to his room bear with backgrnd noise till then. Of course the door banging - no soln for that.
some one should invent cotton or rubber doors....banging proof......:D
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Yes good idea. Rubber or cotton padding on normal door may work.
PS in India same problem. TV blaring and conversation in full swing.
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It's alright, I've decided not to talk to him too much until he gets here now, which should be within the next couple of months inshaAllah. Ignoring it works once or twice but it's very difficult to ignore the constant drama going on in the background. I can't even stand it when he goes out to talk because the noise on the roads from cars honking is worst than the noise in his house. Oh and I tried leaving the tv on once last year and it bothered me more than it bothered him because I could barely hear him and he as usual started a conversation with someone else in the middle. I wonder how my friend's fiancé deals with this because she has the same annoying habit.
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Did you tell him that this bothers you?
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Oh and I tried leaving the tv on once last year and it bothered me more than it bothered him because I could barely hear him and he as usual started a conversation with someone else in the middle.
omg that's hilarious!!!
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My husband has really annoying phone habits. Whenever I am talking to him he starts talking to someone else in the middle. He never says "hold on", he just starts a conversation with his family members. I find that sooooo rude.
Wow, I would throw something at him if he did that to me. LOL jk. I have a pet peeve ... if I am talking to someone and they either ignore me or start talking to others in the middle of the sentence, I don't like to repeat myself. When they "return" to the conversation and ask where I was, I just change the subject. My mom and sis have this habit but at a very very minor scale. They just laugh when I get angry and quiet, and they will try to force-hug me or tickle me until I start laughing.
But seriously though, what is wrong with your husband! I would smack him if I were you. Tell him about your personality and that you expect him to pay attention when you're talking to him just like you do with him. It shows care and respect. If he still doesn't change, then maybe he never will and you'll just have to put up with it the rest of your life.
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see the thing is, i was never one to talk over the phone with anyone. i always prefer face to face conversations. with him i basically have no choice. if i don't talk to him for 15-20 mins during my lunch at work i won't get to talk to him any other time. msn doesn't work with him and i could send him a 100 emails but he wouldn't reply. that's another thing that i hate. he clearly opens the emails/msgs, reads them and doesn't reply for days. it's not like i send random msgs everyday. i send msgs once in a while if i need to ask something. and he calls me at my work and doesn't hang up grrrrrr. he got the number from google and would call random extensions so i gave him my direct line. now he always calls when i have seriously busy. he holds up my line, doesn't understand the meaning of "i am busy" and keeps calling back. he also keeps leaving me voicemails on my work phone on the weekends. how hard is it to remember that i work mon-fri? i come to work on mon to voicemails from him. or he would call on my cell on sat all upset cuz i didn't answer my work phone on a sat!!!! i am super annoyed at him today because his sisters' kids were over during my lunch and making too much noise so he said he would call me later and i told him not to but he still did and kept my line busy. because of him i fell behind on my emails and calls and had to stay back over an hour. sorry i just needed to vent :(
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Set some ground rules.
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Wow, I would throw something at him if he did that to me. LOL jk. I have a pet peeve ... if I am talking to someone and they either ignore me or start talking to others in the middle of the sentence, I don't like to repeat myself. When they "return" to the conversation and ask where I was, I just change the subject. My mom and sis have this habit but at a very very minor scale. They just laugh when I get angry and quiet, and they will try to force-hug me or tickle me until I start laughing. But seriously though, what is wrong with your husband!** I would smack him if I were you.** Tell him about your personality and that you expect him to pay attention when you're talking to him just like you do with him. It shows care and respect. If he still doesn't change, then maybe he never will and you'll just have to put up with it the rest of your life.
An apt profile name I suppose :D. Honestly I agree with you, but please do not go about smacking your husband. He might not like it..
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but why can you only talk to him during lunch time at work? i mean why not at any other time? do you both have same time zones?
i think he does make an effort to go out of the house in order to avoid the house noise it shows that he does get your point but may be cant help it.
is it not possible that you two can talk at the peace full, less noisy hours of the day like in early mornings or early evenings or late nights when people at his house would be asleep?
also you can ask him to call you from his office as it would be quieter over there and you wont be irritated by the background noise.
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Now when he calls and there's noise in the background I just simply hang up.
That would be on the top of my list of annoying phone habits
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That would be on the top of my list of annoying phone habits
OMG mine too!
rouz...yaar this is worse than cutting someone off in the middle. Don't try to teach him a lesson. It'll only create distance between you two.
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he's in pakistan and i am in canada. we both have full time jobs. i work monday-friday and he works monday-saturday. when i am going to work he's usually on his way back from work. when i take my lunch it's 10:30pm for him. he usually goes to sleep by midnight (his time) and i get off work wayyyyy later than that. i usually go to sleep by 10:30-11:00am and that's when he's getting up and rushing to get to work. i cannot talk to him at work because i only have 1 line and if it's busy my calls go directly to voicemail and because people are constantly asking me stuff and coming to me with their problems. he can't talk to me from his office because a) he doesn't have an office of his own and it's shared by other people and b) because he's being constantly bothered. we can't talk during his lunch because that's the middle of the night for me. that only leaves us with his sat night/sunday. his sisters always come over all the time so even on the weekends he has to take his family out, or spend time with them, or there is just too much noise. as for not being able to help it, all he has to do it tell his family to quiet down for 15 mins or so or not disturb him in his room. i mean how hard is it to leave someone alone for that long in 24 hours? we have grown apart quite a bit. so much has happened in my life since the beginning of feb but i can't share it with him because i never get to talk to him. i don't know anything going on in his life. i just hope this stupid immigration process is done soon. it's been almost 2 years now!!!
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rouz - i know EXACTLY what you're experiencing. I've grown up in Canada and moved to Pak after getting married. and let me tell you very honestly that what you're experiencing is more of a cultural thing than personal. i know in that in my house in Canada we mute the TV and keep voices down when someone is on the phone. however, i have noticed here in Pak that most people dont bother with such formalities. People are used to talking loudly, and they are used to talking on the phone amidst lots of noise. lastly, as for starting conversations with other family members - I have seen many people do it. my husband never did it to me during engagement but many people fail to realize how rude this comes off. good luck! and be patient :)