as you know i had scan today ( pregnancy scan for those who dont), thank god it went well.
whats annoying me, im fuming right now, is my mum going around and now has told my aunts…i mean gosshh give it a day…mum coulkdnt wait…i understand shes over the moon and she means well. but i said so many times i want to keep it personal..atleast a while, maybe not 5months…but atleast another week…but mum said everyone kept asking me and everyone alreayd guessed anyay thats why , and it doesnt look goodif we dont tell them because they will mind etc etc…goddddd i dont really care, its my damn businesss…she didnt tell them i had scan though because then they will mind that we kept it for so long an waited for the scan to tell them blah blah…who gives a ******** its MY BUSINESS I TELL THEM WHEN I WANT…i mean these people hardly ran over to us when they found out they were expecting, so why do we need to feel like we owe to tell them…
i love my mum but im so furiousssssssssssssssss at why she caressssssss so much about what people will think…
im already hormonol as it is and this is making me bounce of the walllssss
as you know i had scan today ( pregnancy scan for those who dont), thank god it went well.
whats annoying me, im fuming right now, is my mum going around and now has told my aunts....i mean gosshh give it a day....mum coulkdnt wait...i understand shes over the moon and she means well. but i said so many times i want to keep it personal..atleast a while, maybe not 5months...but atleast another week....but mum said everyone kept asking me and e**veryone alreayd guessed anyay** thats why , and it doesnt look goodif we dont tell them because they will mind etc etc.....goddddd i dont really care, its my damn businesss.....she didnt tell them i had scan though because then they will mind that we kept it for so long an waited for the scan to tell them blah blah...who gives a ******** its MY BUSINESS I TELL THEM WHEN I WANT...i mean these people hardly ran over to us when they found out they were expecting, so why do we need to feel like we owe to tell them...
i love my mum but im so furiousssssssssssssssss at why she caressssssss so much about what people will think...
im already hormonol as it is and this is making me bounce of the walllssss
Several of your relatives have "already" guessed or suspect that you're pregnant. Most likely they will congratulate you/wish you well and either say that they suspected you you were pregnant......OR........they will feign surprise. It won't make a difference to them who comes out with the news first.
This is your mom's first grandchild, she's excited. When you know of exciting news, you naturally want to share it with your family/loved ones. You're bubbling up with excitement to share the good news. She probably wishes to talk about her various plans for the baby (clothes, etc) with the other aunties. It's okay, Nadz. You have lots to be grateful for. The scan turned out okay. The baby is doing fine. You're doing fine. You have a husband who loves you. Your baby will be welcomed into this world by a loving family/grandparents/an excited grandmother. You and your husband have the means to support the baby. You have a roof above your head, food on the table, and your living in dignity. Think about those who have far less (child out of wedlock, no means to support it, non-supportive parents, living in poverty, severe health problems, etc). In a way your mom is right. Some relatives will complain that you didn't tell them about the pregnancy.
A first child tends to get everyone excited. With the subsequent children, people mellow down ;-) Calm down, focus on the positive, count your blessings. You're pregnant, it's not good for you to be so (unnecessarily) stressed) in this condition.
as you know i had scan today ( pregnancy scan for those who dont), thank god it went well.
whats annoying me, im fuming right now, is my mum going around and now has told my aunts....i mean gosshh give it a day....mum coulkdnt wait...i understand shes over the moon and she means well. but i said so many times i want to keep it personal..atleast a while, maybe not 5months...but atleast another week....but mum said everyone kept asking me and everyone alreayd guessed anyay thats why , and it doesnt look goodif we dont tell them because they will mind etc etc.....goddddd i dont really care, its my damn businesss.....she didnt tell them i had scan though because then they will mind that we kept it for so long an waited for the scan to tell them blah blah...who gives a ******** its MY BUSINESS I TELL THEM WHEN I WANT...i mean these people hardly ran over to us when they found out they were expecting, so why do we need to feel like we owe to tell them...
i love my mum but im so furiousssssssssssssssss at why she caressssssss so much about what people will think...
im already hormonol as it is and this is making me bounce of the walllssss
So, to solve this, you tell everyone on GS, a portal with over 200 Pakistani users around the globe, in LESS than 1 week after the scan, about said scan.
So, to solve this, you tell everyone on GS, a portal with over 200 Pakistani users around the globe, in LESS than 1 week after the scan, about said scan.
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Ok.
LOL not only that Pyari, we all knew 'when and how' even before the baby was concieved. :D
Thats not the point. Telling people youve never met, and not family is fine. they dont know you. and i have already told my best friends. its family that i dont really wish to tell. firstly because we have some relatives who have been maried a while and havent conceived yet, also im scared of people putting nazar so soon, i know its silly, but it exists....and maybe i just wanted a bit of time.
the fact that i chose to tell people here or whoever, is MY CHOICE.thats my point.
this is what I don't get. in my family same thing. people will never be honest with their due dates they will always give a later date why? or lie and say no there not pregnant until their actually showing. I just don't get it
If there gonna give u nazar they will give u nazar there's no running from it unless u go into hiding for the next 9 months. best not to think about all these superstitious things relax and enjoy ur pregnancy
its not that, mum told them ok fair enough, then why lie and say we didnt know until now....or scan isnt until next week when ive done the scan...and i knew ages ago...why she making me look thick...like i have no idea whats happenin in my body...
I hate when people pretend they dont know anything. like, grow up and stop playing games, if u know something, say congrats/sorry and move on, stop acting so self important tha I have to tell you personally.
I dont get why asian women hide their pregnancies like its a bad thing? I remember my mum said congrats to some distant relative at a dawat, You could blatantly see she was ready to pop, And she replied back saying '' oh my gosh no im, not pregnant'' Literally few weeks later she gave birth! what a freaaaaaaak!!!!
When im pregnant i'll tell the world not like they'll even **care! **But hey it'll save all the hoo-ha in the mean time. seriously!!
