Re: annoyed
If we are going to start tipping 'em then we might as well make it morally acceptable to give and take a bribe. Aik burri adat leads to another.
This thread is proof why desi girls here have such bad reps. IF ur nice to them and hold doors or smile or whatever, they will scrunch up their noses in disgust as if they are so sure the guy is being a flirt but won't hesitate to be nice to any other ethnicity. If they don't o that stuff lke hold doors...they're rude. Go figure.
PS, as a rule of thumb, im not nice to ANY desi uncles, unless like they see me with my dad and/or husband :@:
I dont see how this makes any sense here because the problem is we WERE nice and look what happened...
THe point of this thread is show what occurs when we are nice...
Im complaning because I was nice...and desi men usually arent...
Re: annoyed
It seems like it's impossible to be nice to some of these desi men. Alot of the desi men/women have the same exact mentality that if someone is being friendly with you, he/she MUST be so attracted to you. I think you were trying to be helpful and nice Ashe and he took it the wrong way. I hate when people do that.
Re: annoyed
most of the desi guys we come across…especially the ones who have recently arrived from the motherland…are like that…they think its ok to treat you such way…just because you are “westran”
they think its “cool”
*you live in amrika or ingland..that automatically makes you characterless…thus the rude advancements…
*they have no one to fear…your brothers..his parents…or the community…hence the bold ‘number de mujhey’ kind of attitude.
treat them the same way you would treat them back home…straysssss… 
Re: annoyed
I find desi guys british or not jus dnt get it when you say NO, i dnt kno mayb in there head they think i say yes for some reason, they just dnt give up they jus keep on hassling unti i have to get really rude which i really dnt like doing.
I work in a retail store in the weekends and i had to go out into the shopping centre to promote our catalogue and this guy filled a form out and since then he used to come into the store n hassle me all the time i told him NO soo many times even security chucked him out the store,(he worked in the store opposite) in the end my manager went to speak to his manager bout it and never seen him since, but i dnt understand i told him NO he jus kept on coming back WHY?
i don't see how i'm making it into an issue. i'm just annoyed by the situation and that he expects that i should give him my number either because a) i'm pakistani and he is too, or b) i'm 'westernised' so that means i probably have loads of male friends and quite happily give my number to random guys.
he didn't actually get the chance to tell me i'm stuck up. i would have preferred of he said something like that the first time i said 'no, sorry'. at least that would have been the end of it. it's this continual harassment that is making me incensed and trying to make out that I'm the one with the problem.
anyway, in london, i have never had a problem with british pakistani guys nor have i ever heard them say that girls here have some kind of 'problem'. i've only heard guys who have recently come from pakistan say that kind of thing, it's like they come over here expecting british pakistani girls to be easy or something. and before anyone says im generalising, i know i am! i don't have a problem with guys from pakistan, my fiance is from there. i just have a problem with this particular attitude of some guys that thus far i have only seen manifest in pakistani men.
good and bad is everywhere lakin manchester the khanian di gal ayi hoor
There are people like that everywhere. Is there more than 1 route from your Uni' towards the station? If so you could try and take an alternative route. If not then walk towards the station with a few friends. If not a few friends then even if there a group of students walking towards the station, just walk behind them so your not alone. If none of these options apply & he keeps bothering you then there's always the old bill.
haha, i tired taking another route that day only to discover there wasn't one and ended up back on that road.
well thankfully, i don't feel threatened (yet). but there is another tube station a few minutes further away in another direction so i might take that one for a while. otherwise i will ask the guys in my research group to walk with me.
i haven't told my fiance yet, which i feel bad about because we tell each other everything but he will just get really annoyed. so i'm hoping it will just go away so i don't have to.
They dont get much, also, if you frequent a place and dont tip, I am sure I wouldn’t take a bite out of your food! This is what happens if you dont tip, and the waiter remembers you.
I dont see how this makes any sense here because the problem is we WERE nice and look what happened...
THe point of this thread is show what occurs when we are nice...
Im complaning because I was nice...and desi men usually arent...
exactly. after this i'm pretty sure that if desi girls are rude to desi men, it must be because something has happened in the past that has made them like that.
these paper people just stand there all day, even in the rain. some people are really rude to them. even i sometimes feel like i just wanna snatch the paper out of their hands, roll it up and batter them over the head with it! so i know they don't have an easy job. and this guy in particular, i had seen for some days that he was being ignored and that particular day some freshers were even pointing and laughing at him after the walked past.
i really felt sorry for him and now i just feel stupid for having done so.
What an ingenious way of flirting. I think his blood line goes to Einstein .
Or Einstein was his Khaloo.
Re: annoyed
Note to the desi girls... Next time please do not initiate convos or establish eye-contact with strangers, especially if they're desi. Dont, for one second think that accepting his free newspaper will do wonders for his job. If things get out of hand, flip him off and dont be nice to him. Avoid desi men at all costs, and dont marry them either.
And a note to these desi bhai log. Jummah jummah das din nahee hoey idhar aye hoey aur phir bhi desi larkiyoon ko tang kar rahey ho. Broaden your horizens, you're not in desi-land anymore and start hitting on finer non-desi women! I am sure they'll pay more attention to your shananigans, and the success rate will go up!
Note to the desi girls... Next time please do not initiate convos or establish eye-contact with strangers, especially if they're desi. Dont, for one second think that accepting his free newspaper will do wonders for his job. If things get out of hand, flip him off and dont be nice to him. Avoid desi men at all costs, and dont marry them either.
And a note to these desi bhai log. Jummah jummah das din nahee hoey idhar aye hoey aur phir bhi desi larkiyoon ko tang kar rahey ho. Broaden your horizens, you're not in desi-land anymore and start hitting on finer non-desi women! I am sure they'll pay more attention to your shananigans, and the success rate will go up!
True true , I couldn't say it better.
I think they get paid very little, plus they do alot of hard work (well I think it is, going back and froth, remembering who had what, even having to stand for ppls nakhray etc esp w/ desi customers). There was one restaurant right in the heart of little pakistan, every time i went there was a new waitress (some HS girl) there, and we used to go every month or so... so that showed the employee turnover. last i checked that restaurant went out of business.
So yeah tipping is a must unless most of the "nicer" places alread include a service/gratuitiy tax in the bill.
This is true...in the restaurant business...waiters and waitresses get paid way below minimum wage. They are actually expected to make their money off of tips due to great service.
Im getting this from a guy who used to work at Olive Garden as a server during college.
Re: annoyed
^ its like $2 or $3 per hour so tips are a must! if they dont make minimum wage after reported tips, i think they get min. wage.
psquare, did u work at usmania *JUST KIDDING! *
exactly. after this i'm pretty sure that if desi girls are rude to desi men, it must be because something has happened in the past that has made them like that.
these paper people just stand there all day, even in the rain. some people are really rude to them. even i sometimes feel like i just wanna snatch the paper out of their hands, roll it up and batter them over the head with it! so i know they don't have an easy job. and this guy in particular, i had seen for some days that he was being ignored and that particular day some freshers were even pointing and laughing at him after the walked past. i really felt sorry for him and now i just feel stupid for having done so.
Oh my, that is so rude of those people! No wonder you felt sorry for him. I would too if I were you. When you see someone mistreated, especially your own, you will do what you can to rectify the situation or make it better.
There is an old desi uncle that works a 7-11 store in my old neighborhood. He is pretty old and I wonder why he is working at this age. Where are his children right now? It bothers me SO much because there have been times when Ive gone in there and customers have treated him very rudely because he is obviously old and a bit slow. They will behave obnoxiously and smirk when he asks them twice. It makes my blood boil but the poor Uncle doesnt say anything. So, I make it a point to be nice, ask him how is doing, speak to him in Urdu and he gets so happy about it! Every so often, he will go and make me Slurpee and wont even charge me for it.
:)
Note to the desi girls... Next time please do not initiate convos or establish eye-contact with strangers, especially if they're desi. Dont, for one second think that accepting his free newspaper will do wonders for his job. If things get out of hand, flip him off and dont be nice to him. Avoid desi men at all costs, and dont marry them either.
And a note to these desi bhai log. Jummah jummah das din nahee hoey idhar aye hoey aur phir bhi desi larkiyoon ko tang kar rahey ho. Broaden your horizens, you're not in desi-land anymore and start hitting on finer non-desi women! I am sure they'll pay more attention to your shananigans, and the success rate will go up!
Excuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuse me!
Iska kya matlab hai??? Desi women arent fine?
It dont get any better than a brownie buddy!
^ its like $2 or $3 per hour so tips are a must! if they dont make minimum wage after reported tips, i think they get min. wage.
psquared, did u work at usmania *JUST KIDDING! *
Um yeeeeeeeeeeeah...Usmania WISHES I worked for them...lol.
Just kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bear with me guys...
In London 3 free papers are distributed everyday in the stations and on the busy roads in central. They are all in competition with each other. All of the people handing them out are Pakistani or Indian. In the past two years that this has been going on I’ve never taken one as i loathe them (the papers). Anyway, recently a new guy near the station at my uni. I feel terrible for saying this but the way he stands and the way in which he asks people if they would like the paper, it seemed like he had a disability. Anyway, one day he was totally being ignored and some people were even making faces at him as they walked past, I felt sorry for him so I took the paper as I walked by. The next time I saw him he was holding out the paper again as I was approaching but Ijust smiled and shook my head (I don’t read them, so there’s no point) but he was like ‘please take it’, so I did. Then I made what in hindsight was a mistake, I said ‘I hope you’re having a good day’. Anyway, he engaged me in conversation, asking what i was studying, where I’m from etc etc, wished me ramzan mubarak. I was pleasant enough but kept it as brief as possible by saying i needed to catch my train. The next time that i was going home at the same time he works, he stopped me and started saying that since we’re both Pakistani, we should go for coffee after ramzan and ‘discuss things’... like what the..? I was like, ‘no sorry, I’m really busy and my fiancé would not approve of me going out like that either’. Then he started with all the ‘What’s the problem? It’s only friendship. We can be friends?’.. so I was like ‘ok I gotta go byeeee’. The next time I tried to walk by as quickly as poss but I still heard him saying in urdu ‘you still don’t want to give me your number?’.
Anyway, today, he tried to stop me again by asking if he could say something. I said ‘ok then quickly..’ and he started on what seemed like was going to be a bashing of British Pakistanis – ‘I have seen that Pakistani’s have this buraa’i’.. well i wasn’t gonna stick around to listen to that so I was like ‘I really have to go’ and continued on my way.
So I've been feeling really annoyed with this whole situation on so many levels. In the past I’ve heard many times from Pakistani guys that girls here are rude and stuck up and don’t give them a ‘chance’. But seriously, are these the kind of situations they are referring to? Just because we’re from the west it means we just give out our numbers to any random guy, does it? Even if it’s just for ‘friendship’. I could be jumping to conclusions about what he was going to say but I really doubt it. But other than that, people exchange pleasantry’s all the time, especially with people who they see every day. It doesn’t mean it has to go any further nor do people expect it to. Ok, so you asked for a number, you were knocked back with a legit answer that you really should respect. Get over it, why does it need to turn into an issue.
And it sucks coz I’m either gonna have to blank him completely or start walking on the other side of the road, both of which are rude but I don’t see what choice I have.
Just be very clear. Next time, walk the same route, the same way. If he tries to talk to you, tell him that if he ever talks to you again or tries to approach you, you will report him to the cops and get him fired too. Then kick him in the balls and walk off.
Just be very clear. Next time, walk the same route, the same way. If he tries to talk to you, tell him that if he ever talks to you again or tries to approach you, you will report him to the cops and get him fired too. **Then kick him in the balls **and walk off.
ouch, that was uncalled for!
Re: annoyed
You mean to say you dont love reading The Metro and The London Lite! eesh!
I love the free papers!! Especially The Metro. Its like the bible of all newspapers. I miss travelling by tube. :(
Plus, they never lie! Not like the The Evening Standard does!
Oh and next time you see someone shoving a paper in your face, just say what I say ' I'm sorry, I cant read' - they get the hint.
And a tip for those 'make over' people outside TopShop on Oxford Street; ' I'm sorry I dont speak English' It really shuts them up!