Weddeings are stressful affairs that require endless deliberation and deep contemplation on parents’ part to be jumping with joy on anything. I realize and understand there are prejudices in pakistani society, but they have their prejudices against pretty much everyone else – mohajirs, punjabis, pathans, bengalis, indians muslims, sikhs, asians (chinese, japanese, etc.), whites, jews you name it.
The point is that desi wedding aren’t happy affairs to begin with:
parents and family elders are busy planning, co-ordinating.
istikharaa junkies are popping one istikharaa after another to decide on dessert, wedding hall, chairs’ color in the hall, dresses, dates, when to take a piss, you name.
strapping lads are tasked with making catering arrangements, hall reservations, page duties, etc.
Last time I had any fun in an f’in wedding was nearly two decades ago. In half a dozen wedding I have attended involved one or more of the following tasks:
hall reservation, decor.
catering arrnagements.
hauling luggage full of clothes for the groom from one country to another.
returning from the same f’ind wedding hauling clothes for the bride from one country to another.
impromptu videographer.
photographer
briber of young kids on where abouts of certain nubile ladies
video editor.
So you see, every wedding brought with itself lots of work. Only joy left was the list of people NOT attending the affair.
I just don’t want to attedn any f’ing wedding any more. Heck for my own wedding, I eloping with my baby ja’an. But before I elope, I’ll make sure taht all the monies are secured in our account (meant for wedding expenses etc.) for a nice downpayment on our house.
How do you people tolerate all those desis in one setting is beyond me.
Anyway what does wedding planning have to do with marryin a black Muslim?
Ideally it shouldn't be like that but that is the sad reality of desis.. hello ppl can be from the same damn city and neighborhood but then caste crap will come into play. Accepting someone as a Muslim is wonderful, but you know how desis can be, majority are so damn narrowminded, they wont go for someone of another caste much less culture, ethnicity etc..
And dont diss istikhara, not when its used for major things like if u shud marry someone..
Ideally it shouldn't be like that but that is the sad reality of desis.. hello ppl can be from the same damn city and neighborhood but then caste crap will come into play. Accepting someone as a Muslim is wonderful, but you know how desis can be, majority are so damn narrowminded, they wont go for someone of another caste much less culture, ethnicity etc..
And dont diss istikhara, not when its used for major things like if u shud marry someone..
young sara,
the moral of the story is that wedding are stressful affairs and nobody jumps with joy anymore. Capische?
I was just having a chat with my cousin yesterday about weddings ... I was complaining that we haven't been invited to enough this summer, and she is so sick of them, she said, "Weddings are stressful if you're involved in them, and just boring if you're not". I think she's right. And I think it's partly due to the fact that most desi weddings are so mismanaged.
I see more and more people around us having inter-cultural marriages. Recently went to a wedding where the guy was Canadian Pakistani and the girl Japanese. Another family friend is getting married to a French Canadian guy.
Hmm yeah I guess tha'ts true.. stressful if ure involved, boring if ur not..
Honestly some weddings i've seen here were pretty nice.. weddings in pak are just horribly disorganized, not to mention dirty and really (to be quite snobby) just not aesthetically pleasing..
LuXXXy, as long as shes 32, and not 22 , its yo life :biggthumb
We’ve had some super organized weddings with page boys/girls (young family people), and guests assigned tables etc. They are a lot of work! We all looked forward to the end and flying back home. Heck, we all deserved a honeymoon of our own for the f’ing work we did! #@#$%^**&%$$$
@sara i think most pakistanis (not just desi) will not be happy to see their daughter or son marrying with a black person i don,t know but in our society people aren,t exactly what you call being good muslim but rather culturly orientated toug i personally know a lot of pakistanis who have married surinamis and indonasian men/women.
They corner you, they chase you, stalk you like Gollum!
O' busy boy so polite...
Gollum ....Gollum
we find a girllll...
we find you bride....
when you get married...
Gollum...Gollum...
Busy...
too busy to talk...
you don't get tired lad
