And she presses babys soft spot!
U cannot slap other peoples kids. But Next time she does something, lock her up in the bathroom for 4 minutes as punishment/time out. And make sure the light is off!!!!
It's not abt my baby, but just reading abt the torture is aggravating me to no end!!!!!
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NO!!! Do not lock someone’s kid in the bathroom…and turning off the light on top of that. 
When I told my mom that my aunt had done that to me…my mom was very angry. My parents did not express their anger as they’re not the kind to create drama, but there’s no telling how this little girl’s mom will react if she were to find out that OP did that to her daughter. You also don’t know how kids will react…locking in the bathroom and turning off the lights may develop trauma or trigger a phobia…or the kid can slip, have an accident, etc. Explaining that to their parent will be awkward.
Limit the disciplining of other people’s kids to just verbal or physically removing them if they’re causing harm. But leave the hitting and locking up to their parents.
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I said create a ruckus because clearly talking calmly hasn't helped. If you haven't yet talked with the child's parents, do so first and seriously. If it doesn't work, you should take a firm stand.
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If I were you and husband wasn't intervening. I would talk with the mother. If the mother wouldn't listen then I would be very strict and rude to teh mom. I think the mom is your dewarani/ jethani. I guess that's what holding you back because it would cause a rift. I suggest you create a ruckus when the child does something again and complain loudly to the mom. If the mom gets mad she will probably not let her daughter go near you guys. If it spoils relations, it spoils relations. Its your babya nd you need to look after him. This child is a bully and her parents are helping her be a bully. Don't hit the child. Not because its not nice etc. but it will give the child's mother a very good excuse against you. Don't let her use that. Maybe you could speak to the child's dad or your MIL too.
Yah she is my jethani. I did talk to mil who also witnessed all this bullying and also got fed up that she ended up hitting the girl. Though mil is very loving and not the hitting kind at all but she pushed mil to that point. She kept hitting baby with a plastic toy(and this is not the plastic toy we get abroad but the toy that is made out of cheap plastic with dangerous finishing and edges). After numerous attempts to stop her mil finally ended up hitting. I was in washroom I think when all this happened.
I think mil did have a discussion with her parents and it has gotten "better".
I have prepared my dialogue with mother and waiting for tomorrow when I will have discussion IA.
Husband is willing to intervene but since he hasn't seen it all he can't express his concerns the way I can.
Thank u all for ur suggestions. Very very helpful.
Yes she does frustrate me to a point where I do want to hit her or lock her up but I wouldn't do that.
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RV, I hope you have heard of “aqalmand ko ishara kaafi hota hay”. The OP has already been trying to make the girl understand in the calm manner and her mother could see that too… So I dont think the suggestion you gave, would work best in her situation!! Your suggestion is not at all wrong but for those who deserve it…some women just dont understand unless the person who is irritated, finally creates ruckus!!
LOL, You can not slap but you can lock the baby in the bathroom with lights turned off…WOW!! You were quite humorous I hope!!
Akhir masla yun hi hal hua na!! 
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Shall be waiting to see how it all resolves. My kids are not babies, but I have zero tolerance for hitting and misbehaving. Mostly I have seen that if the hitter's mom doesn't intervene and stop the child, the mother also gets angry when you talk to her about it. But I am firm about it. Obviously in your case the matter is delicate because its your jethani. I am glad your MIl sees your point of view.
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Girl got fever today at 102. So she has been sleeping all day. I m just waiting for incident and then will talk to mom. Will keep u all posted.
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Now that your MIL has intervened, I think you should give some time to see if she is still repeating that aggressive behavior.
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Agree with Lusi. Don't say anything to parents now as they might resent you since Angelica is sick and plus they won't be able to discuss it with her due to her being ill. Let's see if MIL's intervention proves effective and if not....then you can further strengthen your discussion with the parents by mentioning MIL as well.
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An update for u all.
Me n hubby talked to the parents. I mentioned the hitting thing and how I ve tried everything and nothing seems to work. Hubby talked about head thing and how it can be dangerous. Our talks were to the point.
I don't know how effective it's going to be. Lately I ve started having 0 tolerance towards hitting as well.
I am also noticing that if I give girl silent treatment she tries to be nice to baby and if I m all friendly with her she hits him.
Thank u all for ur advice. Keep my baby in ur
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keep us updated!
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Things only improved for one day.
Talked to parents again today but they think she is too you g to understand what she is doing. They think I m over protective. I am thinking of going and staying with my in laws in another city.
I know that's not the solution but I don't know what to do anymore.
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^the only solution I gave. A very simple example in your own house! You want to move to your inlaws because you "can't tolerate your baby to be hit".......... I say, do the same!! She would neither want "her baby to be hit" !! Aagy se khud khayal rakhay gi! I know I know, lot of people here will think me as a cruel woman... I am not... its just some situations need such solutions!! Also to OP, don't talk to the little girl. It will also help you. Remember, don't hit too hard, just give it on her back! not on face! You call it Smacking! after all you would not want to go to your inlaws everytime when anything happens like that in future.... I even say, leaving your place is not even a good idea!! Don't go!
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I am afraid my first reaction was what queenie suggested. Why are you letting a 4 yr old drive you and your baby out of your home. If she touches your baby again tell her firmly tat you won't play/talk with her since hitting hurts and is not nice, then exclude her for the rest of the day. I would limit all interaction of her with your baby until she learns to behave. Not let her kiss or cuddle him at all. also I would raise hell with the parents. Hitting on head can result in very serious consequences for your child.
I dnt even know your baby but this has made me so angry for him.
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Hitting would make me look like the bad guy that I hit 4 year old. They already turned tables on me and said I am over protective and Yadi yada.
And she presses babys soft spot!
Two wrongs don't make a right. Hitting a 4 year old back to make a point is not going to solve anything. If the parents are being dheet as well, and not understanding, just flat out tell them that you don't want their daughter anywhere near your child until she can learn to keep her hands to herself. Plain and simple. You have e every right to protect your baby as you see fit, however hitting someone else's child to teach her a lesson will not convey anything, especially if the parents don't see anything wrong in her behavior
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Do you live with them? How about talk to your husband and fine your own small space? So they are not at your home 24/7.
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Hitting would make me look like the bad guy that I hit 4 year old. They already turned tables on me and said I am over protective and Yadi yada.
just dnt interact with her if she is being violent or after school as you suggested that thats when it happens. also dnt let her cuddle or kiss your baby until she can behave.
dnt hit her but be very firm about violence.
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If the parents are being dheet as well, and not understanding, just flat out tell them that you don't want their daughter anywhere near your child until she can learn to keep her hands to herself. Plain and simple
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Hitting would make me look like the bad guy that I hit 4 year old. They already turned tables on me and said I am over protective and Yadi yada.
I would not care whether someone thinks about me as a "bad guy good guy" thing or not when its about protecting my baby! I don't know why people are taking "my idea of hitting baby" kind of violent!! I said, just smack her, don't hit her hard!! If you can't do that, let your husband do that, after all, she is your husband's-kin brother's daughter!! He has every right to handle the baby and protecting his's!!