And she presses babys soft spot!

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Re: And she presses babys soft spot!

@redvelvet

^Disagree a bit with you. I don’t think she should create a ruckus. Making it dramatic will fuel tension within the family. I think she should discuss calmly, but firmly…mention that mom’s warnings have not worked.

OP, is it possible for you to gently discuss this masla with BOTH of her parents at the same time? You know your in-laws better and if this won’t make matters worse, then consider this option. If you only say that she hits the baby, they might picture her patting him a bit roughly. You need to tell either the mom or both parents in greater detail exactly what their daughter is doing (stabbing with sharp object, poking him even after you tell her to stop so they know she’s being deliberately badtameez).

RV, I hope you have heard of “aqalmand ko ishara kaafi hota hay”. The OP has already been trying to make the girl understand in the calm manner and her mother could see that too… So I dont think the suggestion you gave, would work best in her situation!! Your suggestion is not at all wrong but for those who deserve it…some women just dont understand unless the person who is irritated, finally creates ruckus!!

@resham76

U cannot slap other peoples kids. But Next time she does something, lock her up in the bathroom for 4 minutes as punishment/time out. And make sure the light is off!!!
It’s not abt my baby, but just reading abt the torture is aggravating me to no end!!!

LOL, You can not slap but you can lock the baby in the bathroom with lights turned off…WOW!! You were quite humorous I hope!!

@Chaachi

Yah she is my jethani. I did talk to mil who also witnessed all this bullying and also got fed up that she ended up hitting the girl. Though mil is very loving and not the hitting kind at all but she pushed mil to that point. She kept hitting baby with a plastic toy(and this is not the plastic toy we get abroad but the toy that is made out of cheap plastic with dangerous finishing and edges). After numerous attempts to stop her mil finally ended up hitting. I was in washroom I think when all this happened.
I think mil did have a discussion with her parents and it has gotten “better”.
I have prepared my dialogue with mother and waiting for tomorrow when I will have discussion IA.
Husband is willing to intervene but since he hasn’t seen it all he can’t express his concerns the way I can.
Thank u all for ur suggestions. Very very helpful.
Yes she does frustrate me to a point where I do want to hit her or lock her up but I wouldn’t do that.

Akhir masla yun hi hal hua na!!