Well we live in the 21st century but i was very annoyed yesterday.
Basically i have recently turned 27 and i was just offered a rishta by a fellow who lives here in the UK, me being a FOB would obviously think carefully about such matters rather than jump at the visa offer…
But after hearing the unkind remarks from my suppposed future brother in Law i was whipped into a frenzy.
Over the better part of the last decade i have kept a neatly trimmed Moustache and Beard. The first condition of the rishta was to get rid of it. Now i’m deeply religous but not to the point that i am say a techno-phobic mulla type… for crying out loud i work as an engineer!
But it annoyed me that these valeeti type larkeeya wanted me to be clean shaven! I’m not sure how wide spread this feeling is among women here so i thought i would put it as a question.
Ladies at the end of the day does facial hair on men put you off? If so why…?
I have vowed not to let anyone touch my moustache but i just wanna know if this is backward… Where i live i have only just noticed i am the only daree walla… who isn’t a mulla
It’s not like i have the Sihk type goatee either i think i look fine!
Just want to know if this is just a UK ladies thing becuase i never heard of it back home.
I think it is preference but a beard is not common in the UK.. and unfortunatley the stereotype is either he is a Mullah type or he is a Hippie type
2 things..
1) never jump at a rishta due to the visa
2) Anyone who demands you shave off your dari.. should not be a consideration, you need to be careful before you jump in.. If a fiance/wife prefers a different look which is fair point I am sure there are more subtle ways of getting your future(husband/wife) to change
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So this desi girl proposed to you - directly? Thats amazing. And this is in Pakistan - i suppose.
While its common for girls not to like facial and body hair. They usually keep their true feelings hidden until after the marriage. Kudos to this one for being honest upfront and also having the courage to propose. Go for it man. This ones a keeper.
If this is REALLY a TERM for rishta, you are better off without it. Let the lady find some cheesy guy. If she really like you so much that she has proposed you, she should accept you as you are. True that everyone have their likings. She might like you more without mustaches but this is no big of a issue that it hangs the marriage proposal in air.
Ur better off out of it! How pathetic shave your beard my brother has one and is also looking to get married and hasnt come across anything like that yet.. Its so hard to find decent rishteh these days hell I know and its more annoying when parents and prosepective partners are so damn demanding! grrrrrr.........
Well she should accept you the way you are or she should move on. Just tell her customization is not available.
ditto.
btw this is known to happen in Pak too. A relative who is a sweet guy otherwise faced this with rishtas where they wanted him to get rid of his long beard (i am talking about 10 years ago). Needless to say he married someone who was ok with it and MA is perfectly happy with each other.
Today she does not like darhi monch , tomorrow she will demand that you get a nose job job , a tummy tuck , pluck your eyebrow etc, where is the end of the line ?
Look, its common for people in the west to apply conditions on guys from back home before (and after) they get married as some how they think that guys from back home can be shaped and moulded however the in-laws like. I've seen people do this to their son in laws from pakistan, but it usually back fires as no man likes to be told what to do by his in-laws or wife. Just set the ground rules now and refuse to get rid of the facial hair because if you give in to this they will make you do all sorts of other stuff too............
I’m not sure how wide spread this feeling is among women here so i thought i would put it as a question.
but if you have something in ur mind then 
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so don’t get annoyed na
customization 