An issue of concern

Iconoclast · June 2, 2010, 7:26pm

My Abba Jee has issued the Altimaytum ..

Now this is an actual real issue. Not the made up stuff I post.

Situation: Guy hitting on female friend. She discussed the issue with me and one or two others and we basically said it was a bad idea. The guy is 40 years old 11 years her senior, white European male. She is 28 Asian and very sweet. The type of girl who is serious about any guy she sees and doesn’t cheat.

Now originally she was hesitant on the idea and me and our Russian friend said it was a bad idea. We are guys. We know exactly why a 40 year old single (never married) European man looks for a much younger simpler Asian girl. Any guy knows what I am getting at. Anyway we didn’t say it in as much words.

A few months later she told me see was seeing him and wanted to know what I think. She said she wanted my okay. Which I obviously said was not needed. It was her life and as her friend I will support whatever decision she made and i would back her on anything she does short of going Lorena Bobbit on a guy. Then I made a few cradle robbing jokes to get it out of my system.

While I am truly fine with her dating the guy, I am concerned that she may get hurt. She has a horrible track record with guys and dating a guy 11 years older than her (practically another generation) is gonna be difficult. She has survived a lot in her life, more than any 20 something year old should have to deal with. She is weak, fragile and yet she is very very mentally strong willed. I think the ladies will understand what that means.

I will be in Geneva this year and she wants me to meet him. The conundrum I have is do I have a guy to guy talk with him or let it be. I am always hesitant when jumping in such issues. The concern I have is that he is using her, and more importantly she is settling for him. She can do much better and the past 3 years have been tough on her and she truly believe she thinks of this as her one chance to find a true life partner. No matter what I have said to her and what others have said has convinced her otherwise.

Thats the problem wth guys, when they have a female friend they either act as borfriend or a father.