Re: An issue of concern
From what you have said there really is nothing there that makes me feel like you should be worried about her. The age doesn’t affect her so it shouldn’t really bother you and unless you know that he is of bad character, and have personally seen him doing something that will hurt her, I’m afraid you’re just being a good overprotective brother/friend 
This was really sad :no:
What’s scary and sad is that I actually understood Jimmy’s post. 
We are guys. We know exactly why a 40 year old single (never married) European man looks for a much younger simpler Asian girl. Any guy knows what I am getting at.
Wow! Such stereotyping! So all 40 year old European single men think the same?
I know 2 couples in real life where the man is white and the woman is Asian. One of those couples, the woman (Chinese, late 30's) met the man (white, almost 60; Yep...almost 20 years age difference) online. They met online almost 4 years ago...and now, 4 years later, she's here in the U.S., they're married with 1 child. I obviously don't know what goes on behind closed doors but from what I see outside, they seem like a happy family. At least out in public, this guy STILL treats her like a princess.
Just b/c this guy is white and older and is attracted to a Asian girl, doesn't mean he's a jerk who'll hurt her! If your friend dated a Asian guy who's also 28, do you think that's a guarantee that she won't get hurt?
Give the guy a chance. See if there's something OTHER than his age/race that's an "indicator" of him being a jerk.
sara, mashallah ab tum mature ho rahi ho 
Re: An issue of concern
Issue sorted. Seems my concerns were not far off the mark at all.
^ yayyy! 
… Can we get some ice cream now? … low fat one for me pweez 
Re: An issue of concern
sometimes you cant explain ppl. your friend seems like one of those cases, especially since she is desperate. the best thing you can do is to leave them (if you are not their parents).
Re: An issue of concern
Desperate? Hardly. I take umbrage at that characterization. She is nothing of the sort, it is merely a situation where i feel she is settling and she felt in a way similar. The matter is sorted and I would certainly request you limit your judgments of character to reality and not assumption concocted in that pretty yet vapid head of yours.
Now this is an actual real issue. Not the made up stuff I post.
Situation: Guy hitting on female friend. She discussed the issue with me and one or two others and we basically said it was a bad idea. The guy is 40 years old 11 years her senior, white European male. She is 28 Asian and very sweet. The type of girl who is serious about any guy she sees and doesn't cheat.
Now originally she was hesitant on the idea and me and our Russian friend said it was a bad idea. We are guys. We know exactly why a 40 year old single (never married) European man looks for a much younger simpler Asian girl. Any guy knows what I am getting at. Anyway we didn't say it in as much words.
A few months later she told me see was seeing him and wanted to know what I think. She said she wanted my okay. Which I obviously said was not needed. It was her life and as her friend I will support whatever decision she made and i would back her on anything she does short of going Lorena Bobbit on a guy. Then I made a few cradle robbing jokes to get it out of my system.
While I am truly fine with her dating the guy, I am concerned that she may get hurt. She has a horrible track record with guys and dating a guy 11 years older than her (practically another generation) is gonna be difficult. She has survived a lot in her life, more than any 20 something year old should have to deal with. She is weak, fragile and yet she is very very mentally strong willed. I think the ladies will understand what that means.
I will be in Geneva this year and she wants me to meet him. The conundrum I have is do I have a guy to guy talk with him or let it be. I am always hesitant when jumping in such issues. The concern I have is that he is using her, and more importantly she is settling for him. She can do much better and the past 3 years have been tough on her and she truly believe she thinks of this as her one chance to find a true life partner. No matter what I have said to her and what others have said has convinced her otherwise.
Thats the problem wth guys, when they have a female friend they either act as borfriend or a father.
Thats the problem wth guys, when they have a female friend they either act as borfriend or a father.
But with that dude she will get both in one person. :D
Jimmy made a funny 
Desperate? Hardly. I take umbrage at that characterization. She is nothing of the sort, it is merely a situation where i feel she is settling and she felt in a way similar. The matter is sorted and I would certainly request you limit your judgments of character to reality and not assumption concocted in that pretty yet vapid head of yours.
um, she is 28. so don't undermine the FACT which is going above your peanut head.
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Okay. Now that is just typically Pakistani. She is 28 so she is desperate. Good to know education doesn't reflect tarbiyat.
A females age has nothing to do with the concept of desperation. Just because Pakistani society is so archaic that it still lives in the era of Able and Cane does not mean that the rest of the world follows such idiotic stupidity.
There are girls and guys who are desperate at the age of 15. Some at 40. There is absolutely no correlation between age and this retarded notion of being desperate. And I find it extremely telling of ones personal characteristics considering the automatic jump you made with age and "desperation".
ditto ..
you started sounding like me minus spelling mistakes 
Girls do, most of them. All races.