Re: An invitation I don't quite know if I should turn down...
CM, WHAT THE HELL did I say to get you so hyper all of a sudden? I SAID I had NOTHING against gay people. I don't have any religious qualms about this, it's about the social awkwardness of it. You really need to CALM DOWN sometimes and listen to what someone not-so-smart said not-too-long ago, QUIT being a fundo!
Psyah,
I see your point but isn't it all about our intentions. Sometimes we tend to social obligations that we really don't want to be a part of but have to. I see it as that. This is a person who has always participated actively in all our community events and rallies despite knowing what Islam says about homosexuality. Just because I'm going to this social obligation doesn't mean I'm supporting what he's doing and he knows what we think of it anyway, yet he extended out an invitation to me.
I'm not quoting him exactly, but Tariq Ramadan said something to that effect during a lecture I attended. Our university's GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender) Club has always been very active on our campus protests/events and even offered to sponsor some of our events. Our board members were iffy about socializing with them, so it was one of the questions that was brought up during the lecture's Q/A. He said that it's Allah's place to judge these people, but meanwhile if they're being nice to us and extending their friendship, then we shouldn't reciprocate it with hatred.
X2, while your suggestion sounds really good (I might actually just do that), I don't feel obligated to go because I live in a Non-Muslim country and thus have to absolutely attend. It's got more to do with that thoughtfulness that came with this invitation.
I'm just scared of actually cringing and squirming when they kiss and show PDA's in front of me. I'm also sort of self-conscious about my hijab. It tends to draw special attention and I'm afraid of people checking my reaction during those moments.
It's like attending an Atheist Convention (Sam Harris of all people) and have a dozen eyes staring you down and the guy sitting next to you nudging you and scoffing at you going "I bet you're really angry now" while the speaker talks about the evils of Islam. Never ever am I putting myself in that position again.
It's probably not going to be like that. Gay people are always very nice, but it's just the awkwardness of it.
Demesne, how can one be so sure that the magnitude of gunaah earned by attending a gay wedding is much bigger than attending a Hindu one? If one is wrong , so is the other.
Reha, I kind of think I'll do that. Maybe skip the ceremony and make an excuse but I normally attend ceremonies when it comes to Non-Muslim weddings because the reception involves drinking etc, and it becomes more uncomfy runs away. Maybe I'll just go towards the beginning of reception and then leave... but then I might as well not go.
Side note: the groom (or bride in this case) is soooooooooooo good-looking. He'd have made a dreamy straight husband sigh
it’s an exotic beach resort though so Umm… WHAT SHOULD I DO!
If a school serves pork then we can’t send our kids there either correct?