let me separate real from imitation. (you are real GORI.. they are not!!!!!!!!)
tell me mama... 1-if you had a BF would you be still talking to other men?? men who have business to be with you??
2-would you keep your relation under cover?? would you cal your BF a friend??
3-after having one friend(bf) would still be considering other friends.. keep them in a loop.. like shopping around??
4-would you call your BF a (country-boy) if he confronted you for having those ties/phone calls with other men/boys??
Cuz paki sistas born and raised in west DO all THAT... before you lead them at-least know your herd :)
Monk,
My cousins in Pakistan have had boyfriends...I havent. Isnt that weird to you? Forget having a relation undercover, shopping around or cheating...a boyfriend is not a foreign concept to the majority of women coming from Pakistan. They have - most - been there and done that.
I don't minhaz... most of them are like that... the ones who are not.. need to bold and make clear statements for them selves.
I mean its extremely uncomfortable experience being with them... there got to be an element of baby-sitting in the relationship.
Most of them are not like that. I am one of four sisters and Ive stated this before...I consider myself a liberal but my very own family in Pakistan finds us to be MUCH more Pendo then they come! Its hard for them to believe we're not walking aorund in micro-mini's or smoking pot or clubbing all the time. Why? Because our Pakistani culture is fascinated by these things...they're NOT as taboo as we seem to think here.
chanda I am so bitter because I been here for freaking years now... I have see a countless population of useless Pakistani girls... Every one of them has same story... ambiguous actions... "now i am paki... oh wait..how dare you... now I am gori..." I mean... I don't mind them being Gori like.... but for freakin heaven sake lose that "indian movie" like culture... talking to every one keeping every one in the loop... loves are just friends ... friends are lover too... Bull-Shyt!!!!!!! I hate that shady character... seen enough of it... now I regret for not making any advance with non paki girls
I mean they want to be amreekan...then BE FREAKIN BOLD LIKE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let me clarify:
Ive been here as long as Ive been alive. Ive seen COUNTLESS AND I MEAN COUNTLESS women coming from Pakistan...most of them being close family and friends. 90% of them do not look like they did when they got here a couple of years from that point. I mean, their hijabs/dupattas/chadars are off and nowhere to be found. Forget a shalwar, we are talking capris and knee length skirts now. The hair is shorter, the make up is racier, etc. The list goes on.
I used to be envious of girls there thinking they dont even have to work to be called seedhi saadhi and sughar. I stopped feeling that way after my cousins demanded to be taken to casinos and clubbing. Our night life was so boring for them. Our clothes were too backward. One more thing...apparently everyone in High Society - whatever that is - speaks only in horrific English? What is that all about?
Seriously Monk, you should change your company or your area.