Chris,
Charlotte, hmmm ... well nice place ... been there few time ... a friends lives very near to Charlotte ... quiet & cool ... not rushy & busy like NYC.
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my prayers are with you..
I understand your fear, sometime it takes time to convince one’s parents but usually they do get agree. Inshallha your sweet heart’s parents will agree also and we will attend your wedding… are you gonna invite me
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wish you best of luck…
Sure your invited…but it wont be for at least another year maybe two…by the time he comes here,and all paperwork is done through immigration then we can get married.Yippee
Chris I am married to American girl and we are married since about 5 years with 4 years old boy. Ofcourse we got married after parents permission. We are happily married Alhamdulillah. Fortunate for me that my wife became muslim before we even met each other, which was a positive point. Even though Islam allows muslim man to marry believing christians and believing jews, but in our Pakistani culture it is very hardly accepted. I want to give you realistic view rather living in fantasy world.
We went to Pakistan last year and my Mrs felt it so good, she received the respect she deserves my family and few guys mentioned here that your husband have to be strong and you can only be strong if you are living a life according to rules and regulations. I am talking about following the rule of Allah and prophet. If your husband really cares for you then you should marry soon, because in Islam there is no such a thing of boyfriend and girlfriend. I may hear some shouting against me here in thread but before you shout please to a new person always show the real Islam and real Islam is that there is no place in Islam for boyfriend/girlfriend. If someone really cares for you then he should marry you regardless of anything.
I am giving you example of my life. My strength was that I told my wife if you comming to visit me from American to England then you only comming to marry me otherwise please don't come and she came over and we got married in two days, we did not live together, we did not kiss, we did not hugged each other before marriage. And Alhamdulillah I will say because our base was strong and we are still strong couple.
Only reason to mention all about me was, not to show myself off, God knows the intentions. I respect you as a sister and I will advise you as I think of my sister. Go to this site and if you want to know what Islam is http:\laila.aresworld.net
there are very good taped lectures if you like to listen. Specially listen the one relatd to women and also for the people who think I am wrong about girlfriend/boyfriend. please listen to the lecture about "STay away from Zina".
God bless you all.
Im glad to hear it has worked out for you and your wife zafar_raja.It is inspirational to me. inshallah all will work out for us. Keep us in your prayers,as i am also praying for all the guppies on here.....
Chris, are you marryin a Pashtoon? I ask because you asked about Wazir tribe.
well my love dosent refer to himself as pashtoon,but as pathan.......
Pathans are a large group..and thanks to the others on the forum,ive been able to do more research...
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Chris_wazir it’s nice to know you guys are going to married. Wish you good luck. By the way, I’m also engaged to an American girl
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oh we come in the same category
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That is pretty cool, we are in same situation.
What cultural differences have you encountered with your sweetheart?
So far for me there are a few things.
Religion of course being one of them.But some of the music we listen to..Ive got this craving to hear pakistan music(traditional and pop)and my sweetheart listens to the american songs from the 1980's......I grew up listening to the 80's.....ive had enough of that..lol...
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Originally posted by chris_wazir:
**That is pretty cool, we are in same situation.
What cultural differences have you encountered with your sweetheart?
So far for me there are a few things.
Religion of course being one of them.But some of the music we listen to..Ive got this craving to hear pakistan music(traditional and pop)and my sweetheart listens to the american songs from the 1980's......I grew up listening to the 80's.....ive had enough of that..lol...
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Well, it seems to be you guys are older than me. I know my "Love" for about 3 years. We used to go to "High School" together. She has converted Islam a month ago. Like you, she also does like Pakistani culture, music, dishes etc etc. It's nice to know we have some thing in common.
God Bless
Play your game - Guess my motto
Out of curiousity ,what religion was your "love" before she converted?
hmmmmmmmmm good choice
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pathans are sttunningly beautiful people and loving too.
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My sweetheart is a very loving man...I think i mentioned somewhere else in another thread that he is by far better than any american i have ever met.(no offense guys)
I am a changed woman,Ive never been so open with another human being before.And never been so deeply in love before with someone as i am with him......to those who know this feeling.....it overtakes you...When your sweetheart can look at you from across the room and you get this ache in your heart ,such gratitude for god giving the chance to live and love this other person.....its awesome.
This is a quote of something he wrote me recently,
"Let me tell U that from the time we have talked .....I have always prayed for YOU, ur LOVE and ur happyness.... Not a single thing for my self. Because I know that If U are happy I am Happy.All my life I have been scearching for the kind of love and affection which U have given me... please dont you ever take it away from me"
Some people say love is over-rated,
Only someone who has not felt love in its truest form can say this...But i pray that all people could someday feel love this deep.Once there you will never want to leave it.
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She was Christian before converting to Islam
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Would love to talk to her....and find out how she overcame the feelings for christianity and its teachings...or did she decide to keep both?? just curious
No. She is Muslim. We have chatted a lot over this “Converting Issue” and I didn’t force her to convert Islam from Christianity. She converted Islam according to her own wish. I’d suggest you to read Chapter Women of Holy Quran. That might help you in finding values of “Women” in Islam.
I may ask her first to have conversation with you about her “Conversation to Islam”. Because, she is a busy girl. She, probably can’t come. There are wonderful sites about Islam. The one I personally like is
Go ahead and read “Archives Letter” right at the bottom of it. There are many Christians who have converted to Islam. God Bless
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such beautiful words , you must be an eloquent speaker as well.... are you a poet?? i am sure you are.
its nice to know how sincere and honest your man is.... I hope you two have a great life.
I can't judge individuals but all the pathans to whoem i have known were very honest, kind and sincere people.
I use to write some poetry when i was a teen,but nothing worthy of posting.
And my sweetheart has never written poetry before.....this is how we talk all the time to one another when expressing our love.
He is the most compassionate man ive ever met...
and thankyou for your wishing us well...i pray the same for you
I understand your love is busy......no problem, im going to go read that section of archives...
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