American wanting to marry a man from Pakistan

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Please give me honest sincere advise please

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Is it American man wanting to marry a man from Pakistan or American woman?

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^ lolz, Lusi! :cb:

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Luis.... its an american woman and a Pakistani man

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why do you want to marry Pakistani man....do you love him or do you seek permanent citizenship of Pakistan

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You know bitter.... our friendship has been growing for 5 yrs now. I have met all his family through Skype. He has a mobile store business in Pakistan. True love is there.....

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Michelle, just be careful and research thoroughly. There are some people who are just looking for a visa...not only in Pakistan, but worldwide.

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Ok so..... how can i investigate him... enchanting rose

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I think you should go for it. Just keep us all updated pliss :chilly:

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There is a catch .... she is Christian and he is Muslim :\

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in Islam, it's NOT an issue. a Muslim man can marry a woman of the Book [Christians and Jews].

i don't think there is any problem for a Christian woman to marry a Muslim man.

Islam entitles both spouses to adhere to their faiths. having said that, it's not recommended in Islam for the sake of children's upbringing and faith.

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Who is Luis

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no, I don't

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Lol funny TLK .... but anyways... yep the problem will be the up bringing of the future children. I really have been giving it some thought... it will be a conflict

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I have studied Islam religion.... Pakistan culture.... learning urdu... but... me... im really involved with my church... youth leader and Sunday school.teacher. really need to give it some thought.

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Does he even want to marry you or is it just you that wants to marry him? Has he brought up the subject of marriage with you at all in the past 5 years? You've met his family on skype but do they know about the relationship you have with him cuz I seriously wonder if he's told them you're just a friend or if he's hinted that you're something more than just a friend. Difference in religion is not the only issue. Most Pakistani parents are not too keen on their son marrying an American girl, it's usually met with resistance though there are exceptions out there so that's something to consider too. And if he resides in Pakistan, then you have to be careful cuz people get used for visa etc.

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Either you are a troll or a naive white chick/ This whole thing sounds so shady. Have you been growing closer to him over the internet? Have you even met the guy? He has a cell phone store in Pak? You have met his family over Skype? My mind is not processing this, sorry. Run while you can or be very very careful.

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Michelle, if you’ve known him for the past 5 years analyze each and every convo you’ve had for red flags. Is he pushy about coming to America? Does he want to marry you? Use a logical and rational approach too, and not just an emotional approach. I wouldn’t know how you would go about investigating him in Pakistan. People can put up some real strong fronts.

There are some guys who marry American ladies and will be sweet and bend to their every need till they get their greencard…once they have that they turn their backs and bring a Pakistani wife from back home. Sometimes learning the culture, the food, the language isn’t enough. Heck, there are some Pakistani guys who will even marry an American Pakistani girl but will never tell her that he’s got a wife and kids back home. Once he gets his legal documents, he will juggle both women, or leave one for the other. I hope in your case it’s either true love or you’re smart to figure it all out.

All the best! :flower1:

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Tell him that you would love to move to Pakistan to be with him forever, and be there for him and his parents. Please report back with his response.

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I think that is the best plan. Be very sincere about it and you will know quickly if he is sincere.

I am a white woman married to a son of Pakistani parents. So he is American but with deep roots to Pakistan. We worked out the religion thing early and he actually joined my church.

I actually thought religion would be our biggest obstacle and we were good as we figured it out. But in marriages like ours other things can really be hard. Are you ready to have family stay for months on end? When you have kids will you be cool handing them over to people who love them but disobey all the doctors orders to the point of endangering them? Are you up for constant pressure to change your name, convert, dress in Pakistani clothes? How will your family adapt to his family who will have very different communication styles? Are you ok with constant criticism in the way of "advice"?

I remember newly having twin babies and my husband's family came to visit. I hadn't slept in two months and I was hassled for not dressing up for them, not cooking enough, and using an American broom instead of some other type they preferred. I complained to a desi friend who told me..they went easy on you! At that moment our religions were a minor issue compared to the cultural clash.

I have a really good marriage. But it has been tough and a lot of work. It has also had to include tough boundary setting.

If this thing is for real, really really think of the life you will have. A marriage is never just two people and from my experience a Pakistani marriage really does mean marrying the family.