American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan...OMG

[multani86]

Re: American Pakistani, and I want to marry my 1st Cousin in Pakistan…OMG

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we’re saying that it’s karma to help him deal with it. It’s better to be like… you know what, I screwed up in the past, now this is happening to me prob because of my mistakes… you can be a better person. It’s tough to get over a heartbreak and the best thing to do is sometimes accept that you’re not right for that person or vice versa.

And I put in my post that he is his own person. He can do what he wants. But he randomly posted about how he doesn’t think drinking and getting high is bad and the reasoning for it- those were a side track to his girl problems. That’s why those were addressed.

I hear people keep saying over and over again… that it’s KARMA this is happening.

If you do something bad – again “bad” is a man made word which we have given meaning and connotations to, the same as “good”. Further more, in different parts of the world, “bad” and “good” acts are perceived differently. Meaning a drinking in Ireland, is an accepted “good” or “okay” pastime, but where as in Saudi, drinking is very “bad” – will get you arrested.

I know i’ve used the saying myself in the past, that “it’s karma happening” when someone acts out of character or mistreats someone, and has a chain or series of unfortunate events befallen upon him.

The thing is, Karma does not exist.

Even in the event of a serious mishap… lets say:

I mistreat Jenny, and then my car won’t start… it had no correlation.
I mistreat Jenny, and as I turn around, I fall down. No correlation.

I mistreat Jenny, and feel guilty about it, but because of the guilt, while closing my car door, my fingers get slammed shut.

Yes correlation in the third case.

But see, it’s not KARMA that made him slam his fingers in the door. It was the guilt…which is a conscious / subconscious manifestation. Meaning if we do something bad, and internally… on a conscious or even subconscious level are not over this incident…our mind will serve justice (will occupy or distract or disrupt us causing something abnormal to happen) for it — IF — AND ONLY IF — It sees fit.

Meaning, if I am a serial killer, and i have gone on a murdering rampage… it’s not going to be Karma that gets me caught on the 100th murder. Where was Karma on the 99 that preceded it?

I don’t see the correlation my PAST has on my selection, and me falling for my cousin. I made the decision to fall for her, I let myself fall for her, because “I” felt like their was value in emotionally committing to her, but as time went on, I realize that maybe just MAYBE I jumped the gun… MAYBE I made a mistake, but there is that subconscious half of me… THAT WILL NOT or DOES NOT want to let go. On a conscious level… I even admit it in my post, that if this were any other girl, I wouldn’t want to put up with this…

So if you are calling my subconscious suffering and inability to move on — “Karma”… OKAY

But the actuality is, I feel my past did not predicate this current situation — WHAT SO EVER.

It just happened that way. If any one is to blame - it’s me…for allowing myself to fall for her.
My past did shape me who I am today… but what I’m trying to say is: “If i had been a saint, there is still no guarantee that this wouldn’t be happening” - “It might be different, but you cannot attribute Karma to the current series of events”.

I pissed Jenny off, and I happened to go to my car and it won’t start.
Regardless of what I did to Jenny — The car would not have started.

Obviously it’s a lot more complicated than this…but i’m not going to let people cop out, and attribute Karma to my current situation, and let them “think” they know all.